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Old 04-26-2012, 10:46 PM
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Default Good evening/nos da

Hello from South Wales. I am a new non-lurker, taking a quick bracing plunge to say hello and mangle some metaphors...

Don't particular see myself as poly, but am one of those strange "friends with benefits" creatures which suits where I am at the moment.I have a couple of sgnificant others. One is a loving, non-sexual connection with a man with ties elsewhere. Other is a man in open relationship who I see on a "FwB" footing when his and my scedules allow.

I am interested in meeting available other(s) for affectionate and sexual relationship that is something more than casual, but less than "full-on". According to an OKCupid test I rated as "Heavenly perfection" on their Polyamory test - whatever that means!
http://www.okcupid.com/quizzy/result...56277760073596
I thought I'd find out a bit more, so here I am...
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Old 04-26-2012, 10:55 PM
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Hi and welcome!

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I am interested in meeting available other(s) for affectionate and sexual relationship that is something more than casual, but less than "full-on".
I like this decription! There are a few of us here who seek the same or similar type of relationship. There is a discussion thread for "solo" people where we talk about our ideal situations and what we want. That is here: Solo poly people - what's your ideal? Even though you think you are not technically poly, you are welcome to post there.

Personally, I don't think having casual, less committed relationships excludes us from identifying or considering what we practice as polyamory. But it's not the labels that are important, anyway.
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Old 04-27-2012, 08:46 AM
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Thank you for that, nycindie - Much appreciated. Am aware that everyone is vert different, but also aware of a certain underlying philosophy regarding polyamory which I can respect, but may not share.

Agree that at one levels labels are merely that, but they can also be helpful, sometimes!

Will check out thread indicated - many thanks.
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Old 04-27-2012, 01:53 PM
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Croeso!

One of the things I love about the whole poly phenomenon is that many different desires and wishes are accepted, explored and celebrated.

Hope you find what you see!
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Old 04-27-2012, 03:34 PM
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Smile Diolch!

Thanks for welcome. Just finding out a little more about the site and its users...
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Old 04-27-2012, 11:41 PM
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Hello caitlin,
Welcome to our forum.

Whatever label you use, I hope you'll feel at home here. There's a "Dating & Friendships" area (see "Forum Jump" menu at the bottom of this page, right hand side) where you might be able to look for people to meet, though I couldn't say how accomodating it will be to your locality as I haven't visited that part of Poly.com before.

Anyway, it's good to have you with us.
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Old 04-28-2012, 07:31 PM
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Smile Thank you, Kevin

Much appreciated.
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Old 04-28-2012, 11:15 PM
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Old 05-05-2012, 09:31 PM
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Happy to welcome a fellow taff. The good thing about polyamory that it is a very wide thing so you can be any "type" of polyamorist you want.
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Old 05-05-2012, 10:58 PM
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Default Thanks/Diolch!

Nice to hear from fellow-Taff.

Hmm.... at what point does the word become meaningless if too "open" to varied definitions though?
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