Originally Posted by playswellwithothers
There's a good "secondary's manifesto" or something like that out there on the Internet. Maybe somebody here knows what it's called and where to find it. I recommend reading it just to get the perspective of what you're asking of your girlfriend.
You may be thinking of XeroMag's Secondary's Bill of Rights
. I emailed it to Dude along with a few other links about polyamory (a new word for him, although not really a new concept) a few weeks after we got together and he said that it was interesting and helped him put together some things that we had been talking about.