Hey there!

Me (m/20) and my significant other (f/20) went into this relationship with some kind of silent understanding that we'd eventually become an open relationship. I haven't really had much chance to really explore my sexuality, and she has always favored women over men. Knowing this and how much I love her, I didn't want to end up losing her in the long run because she longs for something she can't have. And that got me thinking about how monogomy is an infringement upon free will and essentially turns others into possessions.

So we've been talking polyamory, she's already talking about girls/guys she thinks are cute and its odd to hear these things and have them not upset me. I feel I'm truly seeing her for her full potential even though we haven't taken any real steps to act on it.

I feel a larger draw towards the emotional aspect, since monogomy makes you feel "wrong" for breaking down certain barriers with more than one person at a time. Now when I find someone interesting I can actually persue a deeper connection and find out how they tick

Hi and welcome!

It sounds like you guys have a pretty honest communication set up. I just wanted to say that it's not odd to not be upset by your significant other talking about people they're interested in. That really threw me for a loop at first, too. I thought there must be something wrong with me or my feelings for my husband, that I enjoyed hearing about his dates and interests. But reading around here I've found that a lot of people experience compersion instead of jealousy when their SO is enjoying a new relationship.

It sounds like you're in a good head space for exploring polyamory. Wishing you guys a lot of success!

Autumn

Greetings Vendividiamavi,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I checked out your other thread and replied there, hopefully that helps. It sounds like the two of you are just getting started on the polyamorous track. There's a lot to learn. Explore Polyamory.com, find out what threads call to you, and let us know if you have any questions.

Glad you could join us.
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