My wife and I had a triad with a mutual female friend. The problem was that my wife and I both worked while our g/f (wife #2) did not want to. She was used to getting by on her hot looks and being supported by boyfriends. She did not do any housework or cook. She never contributed to our household expenses and when we went out to eat, which we did a lot, she would order expensive dishes, appetizers, deserts and drinks and expect us to pay.
My wife and I were making more than enough money to support her but after a few years of her getting by on her looks, we decided that enough was enough. She had several advanced college degrees and could easily find a job. She just wanted to be supported. When we put pressure on her to help defray costs, she occasionally paid for her own meals and brought over her own food, etc.. It was very sporadic and sometimes we had to ask her to pay her own way. We started to feel as if she was taking advantage of us and not pulling her weight.
We supplied her with a furnished room complete with TV and cable. I bought her an entire wardrobe of clothes each season, as I also did with my wife and myself. She did supply her own car but we always used mine. For the first few years, my wife and I was mesmerized by this stunning big breasted Scandinavian hottie and let things slide as she was not only beautiful but also very intelligent and a fun person to be with. Plus we were both madly in love with each other and our g/f was really like family. We supported each other through rough and emotional times and had no problems in our relationship. No jealousy issues at all and our g/f was always aware of her secondary role in our marriage and never did anything without first discussing it with my wife. Other than the support issue, it was a great relationship.
When we began to get serious about her contributing to our household expenses, she ended up finding some guy on the internet who could never get a woman like her and agreed to share her with us. So she married him and was able to contribute to our household funds. She spent about 30-40% of her time with us, either on weekends or full weeks plus some vacations.
We never knew anyone else who lived with another person as part of their relationship so we did not know what to do so we made our own rules. Now I am wondering how some of you handle expenses when you have others living with you and your wife/girlfriend? Also, do you all have sexual relationships with all members of your poly group or do you have separate relationships ? If so, isn't that messy and does it last for the long run? We kept it to woman we both loved. We once tried dating on our own but neither of us liked it. I did not like the guy she found and she did not like the girl that I found and since we did not want to jeopardize our marriage, we found someone we both liked and ended our search.
This is all fascinating to me as we thought we were alone in this kind of lifestyle and kept it from even our family and closest friends. Now I see that a lot of others are into poly relationships, open relationships or what have you. When you lived in the pre-internet age, there was no way to know how many others were doing as you did. Now life is different. My wife and our g/f were sexual with each other but due to the stigma back in our time when bisexual was not accepted as a sexual preference by even the gay/lesbian community, my two ladies did not want to feel like they were lesbians so they only had sex together as a threesome. Now they both feel differently but back then it was not something that you wanted others to find out about you. My wife still does not tell anyone she is bisexual as she is old fashioned and still thinks it is something to keep hidden.
My wife and I were making more than enough money to support her but after a few years of her getting by on her looks, we decided that enough was enough. She had several advanced college degrees and could easily find a job. She just wanted to be supported. When we put pressure on her to help defray costs, she occasionally paid for her own meals and brought over her own food, etc.. It was very sporadic and sometimes we had to ask her to pay her own way. We started to feel as if she was taking advantage of us and not pulling her weight.
We supplied her with a furnished room complete with TV and cable. I bought her an entire wardrobe of clothes each season, as I also did with my wife and myself. She did supply her own car but we always used mine. For the first few years, my wife and I was mesmerized by this stunning big breasted Scandinavian hottie and let things slide as she was not only beautiful but also very intelligent and a fun person to be with. Plus we were both madly in love with each other and our g/f was really like family. We supported each other through rough and emotional times and had no problems in our relationship. No jealousy issues at all and our g/f was always aware of her secondary role in our marriage and never did anything without first discussing it with my wife. Other than the support issue, it was a great relationship.
When we began to get serious about her contributing to our household expenses, she ended up finding some guy on the internet who could never get a woman like her and agreed to share her with us. So she married him and was able to contribute to our household funds. She spent about 30-40% of her time with us, either on weekends or full weeks plus some vacations.
We never knew anyone else who lived with another person as part of their relationship so we did not know what to do so we made our own rules. Now I am wondering how some of you handle expenses when you have others living with you and your wife/girlfriend? Also, do you all have sexual relationships with all members of your poly group or do you have separate relationships ? If so, isn't that messy and does it last for the long run? We kept it to woman we both loved. We once tried dating on our own but neither of us liked it. I did not like the guy she found and she did not like the girl that I found and since we did not want to jeopardize our marriage, we found someone we both liked and ended our search.
This is all fascinating to me as we thought we were alone in this kind of lifestyle and kept it from even our family and closest friends. Now I see that a lot of others are into poly relationships, open relationships or what have you. When you lived in the pre-internet age, there was no way to know how many others were doing as you did. Now life is different. My wife and our g/f were sexual with each other but due to the stigma back in our time when bisexual was not accepted as a sexual preference by even the gay/lesbian community, my two ladies did not want to feel like they were lesbians so they only had sex together as a threesome. Now they both feel differently but back then it was not something that you wanted others to find out about you. My wife still does not tell anyone she is bisexual as she is old fashioned and still thinks it is something to keep hidden.
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