Married and Poly?

[turtleHeart]

Ginko and I have been together almost 5 years now, marrying with the intention of seeing if polyamory was something that would work for us, as it's a work in progress that we've discussed since our first date. Ginko has been seeing someone for about a year and a half now, and I'm seeing two people, one for about a year and the other for 2 months now.

[JustUs]

My wife and I have been together almost 15 years and married over 10 of those years. We have been poly for about 6 years now, maybe longer, just not realizing there was a term for what we are.
She has had 2 long term relationships with others, one lasted over 2 years the other almost 3 years. I would consider myself mono with her, but very open to her having other relationships. The two previous relationships went well til they ended, as we all were very comfortable with each other and spent a lot of time together as friends also...
Currently poly-single, but looking...

[Magdlyn]

Ha, I was still married when this poll began. I divorced (after a marriage of 30+ years) in August of '11, been with miss pixi since Jan '09, and with Ginger since Jan '12.

Ginger is married, long term, and gonna stay that way. I have no desire to ever be married again.

[blacknwhitelady]

I am married and have a boyfriend. To be honest, its only been recently that I've become truly polyamorous. My husband and I got married almost two years ago knowing we wanted to life a life of polyamory but neither of use found anyone special enough to start "dating" and be up front that we were married until I met my boyfriend about a month ago. So we are kind of new to he relationship game.

[PolyLinguist]

I am married.

I do not practice poly, because I have not found anyone to practice it with.

Maybe one day. Or I'll get another hobby.

[Fiona]

My husband and I have been together for about 10 years, married for 7, and have been non-monogamous in one way or another for most of that time. We were involved with another couple for several years, and had other (separate) partners as well. Currently, I am in another relationship that has been going on for about 1.5 years, and my husband is in one that began about a year ago.

[FullofLove1052]

My hubby and I have been married since '02. I have been in a relationship with Kensi since June '00, and my relationship with my hubby started a month before that. Almost 13 years of the poly lifestyle. The dynamic has evolved from hybrid open to a closed triad because my hubby is now dating my girlfriend. After 12 years, I was still hoping for it, but never knew if it would happen. Now, it finally has. It has always just been the three of us. No add'l parties.

[InsaneMystic]

I'm absolutely not into the concept of marriage for a multitude of reasons, so no.

[JaneQSmythe]

Originally Posted by InsaneMystic

I'm absolutely not into the concept of marriage for a multitude of reasons, so no.

I'm curious about the "multitide of reasons"...

I'm always interested in talking about people's conception of marriage and pro/anti feelings. I think it is because MrS and I started out with such different views, so we ended up talking about it a lot back in the day. (I wrote about the initial conversation in my "Journey" blog here.)

There's and interesting thread around here debating whether poly and marriage are incompatible. (I think this is the one I was thinking of).

JaneQ

[InsaneMystic]

@JaneQSmythe - Thx for the links, I'm gonna read up on and reply in the second linked thread, as to not derail this one from being more poll-ish in nature.