Originally Posted by CloudsLater
I am trying to write out what I would want in one, and I find it unfortunate that this poly stuff is so unknown.
What would you want in any relationship, whether poly or mono? Love, mutual respect, caring, affection, camaraderie, shared interests, intellectual and sexual compatibility, honest communication - as a start!
Now, as to a poly dynamic or configuration, well, you can't predict what situation you'd end up in, but you might have some goals or ideas to pursue, related to how many people, genders and orientation of all involved, whatever. Feel free to contribute to a thread I started for other single/solo poly people to discuss the kinds of poly relationships we fantasize about creating for ourselves. There hasn't been activity on it of late - go here: Solo poly people - what's your ideal?