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Old 11-03-2010, 11:14 PM
Tonberry Tonberry is offline
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I think you should tell him as soon as possible, own up to it, say you realise it didn't go ideally and you should have talked with him more first and get the ok to do things while he was gone (so he wouldn't feel like you did it behind his back), ask him how he feels and what you guys should do next.

The longer you wait, the worse he's going to feel when he learns. He might be able to understand if you tell him right away that you were caught up in it. Make it clear that you love him and don't want to hurt him.

Tell him you'd like to make things work, and ask if he wants to meet your boyfriend. From there, really, it will depend on his reactions. Best of luck!
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