I'm happily married and in love with my husband, and I am also in love with my boyfriend L. I'm new to this so maybe I'm not right, but I think I can fall as deeply in love with him as my heart wants, as long as my head understands where we have to draw the line.
We both have families of our own that will always take priority, as will our spouses. We will never be looking at a cohabiting arrangement or anything like that. All I want is to see him as often as we can, to communicate enough to keep our connection, and to enjoy what we have for as long as it lasts.
I have a house and a child with my husband. There is no other relationship that could ever be equal or take priority with that. It's as simple as that for me. I just have to remember that when I am the one in the secondary position.
Me: 30 year old straight female, married to mono H (together 12 years). LD relationship with non-mono L, 6 months.