Greg,
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Originally Posted by buckeye584
I don't think you fit the definition of polyamory.
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This should be good....
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Originally Posted by buckeye584
I am in a threesome relationship right now and it is very much a "hinge" relationship or Vee. Anyway, for you to be in a polyamous it takes alot more open, honest, and loving relationship.
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How is what she talked about not open, honest and loving? Both of her partners know what is going on, and bless it, and she says that he is in love with both of them.
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Originally Posted by buckeye584
You are having more of a swinging lifestyle.
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I disagree completely. She may have come at this from the swing approach but it has evolved into something that I would definitely call more polyamory than swinging.
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Originally Posted by buckeye584
I did that for many years and it does leave you feeling very empty inside.
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It may have left YOU feeling very empty inside, but there are many others who feel quite fulfilled from that lifestyle. Sorry it didn't work out for you.
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Originally Posted by buckeye584
Polyamory relationships are one of the hardest and most rewarding relationships you can get involved in. You should never have the feelings that your having. That is why I think your more in a swinging lifestyle than polyamory lifestyle.
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So because she is having some issues, suddenly it's not poly, it's swinging? Yes, poly takes work, and yes it can be full of things that need to be dealt with, including insecurities, jealousy and fears. That doesn't make it "not poly".
Greg, I really suggest you do a little more reading around about the various forms of polyamory and how the polyamorous community tends to accept those who, while still doing poly, do it differently from us. Please do this before handing down your judgments on what is and isn't poly and what is and isn't swinging.
If you'd like to get into more of a discussion on this, I suggest you start a new thread to discuss the forms of poly and their relative merits.
Cheers!