All I can say then is that I wish you guys the best! Be aware of the dangers, and communicate honestly and thoroughly -- including with any new partner, including about your past difficulties -- and hopefully things will be good. But anyways, does all of this begin to answer your original question?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.