Had a quick thought about the phrase "your primary relationship is sacred"... shouldn't all loving relationships... not crushes or lusts or experimental flings but real, deep love, the kind that's been built by the mutual expenditure of effort and time, where we know each other inside and out and are willing to accept what we find, and make a practice of giving of ourselves for the other person... be sacred?
Also, just happened to check my livejournal feed and found this post from yesterday by Franklin Veaux on the subject of relationship rules: http://tacit.livejournal.com/372954.html
The major players. Me, under-30 bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 3+ years. Clay, new boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/"it's complicated."
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy, Clay's partner.