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Old 09-23-2011, 03:06 PM
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Are there any bi guys here who have had little experience with women until, say, middle age (or around that) -- and then gone on to have a loverly partnership with a woman?

I've seen many stories here in these fora about bi women who had been almost exclusively with women (or men) until around midlife, but few examples of this from men.

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Old 09-23-2011, 03:58 PM
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I am interested in any stories or experiences by men too. River's right - there are plenty of discussions of women who were exclusively or predominately lesbian or straight and then became involved with men or women later on in life.

I think there is a perception that women are much more likely to be bi than men. And there is some surveys that back this up. Men are believed to be more rigid in their sexuality, so to speak. I don't know if this is actually true or if men have more to lose by expressing or having a more flexible sexuality and so are more likely to be closeted, or simply unaware of the range of possibilities. At any rate, looking forward to any thread replies!
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Old 09-24-2011, 01:31 PM
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...I don't know if this is actually true or if men have more to lose by expressing or having a more flexible sexuality and so are more likely to be closeted...
It's this, of course. Male homosexuality was condemned in the Hebrew Bible. So was transgender (a man with crushed testicles or a "cut off penis" was not allowed in the Temple).

Men were allowed to have as many wives and concubines as they wished, of course.

There is no issue with what women do when they aren't having sex with their husband, as long as she doesn't fuck another guy. There is no condemnation of women fucking other women, because women are second (or third) class people, so who cares if they take pleasure with each other. All that matters is they don't get knocked up with another man's biological child.

There were however, male prostitutes (the word used is "holy ones") in the Jerusalem Temple, as well as male priests of the female goddesses in Canaan (Judah, Israel). These were called "dogs" by the Temple priests, and were finally forced out of the Temple and their sacred sex duties.

Of course, much of the late Hebrew Bible and all of the New Testament were influenced by the Graeco-Roman culture of the day, where male homosexuality was accepted. The dominant culture didn't need to focus on reproduction just to survive, whereas the struggling, basically enslaved Hebrews did.


And so... all that background filters down to our prevailing paradigm of lesbians being hot, while gay men are seen as weak and perverted.
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Default Wow, I wonder why this thread went into disuse?

No one has posted in this thread since 2011, which is surprising to me.

I'd like to hear from gay and bi men about their experience with polyamory, especially whether they perceive gay and bi poly men as an especially rare species of creature. They seem pretty rare in my neck of the woods. And I wonder why.
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Old 11-16-2015, 12:12 AM
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There must be other bi or gay poly men in here?! I can't be the only one?

Guys, we have so much to talk about! Pick a subject, any subject....
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Do hetero guys get to join the thread?
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Old 11-17-2015, 11:19 PM
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Sure, of course -- and they are especially welcome when they can sincerely empathize with the hearts (feelings) of their queer / homo / bi brothers & sisters. But all are welcome who can at least try and be kind and sensitive toward us LGBTQ types.
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kdt26417,

Do you have any gay or bi (or queer) guy friends?
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At least three: a longtime friend (who owns a game store), a cousin (who is a dentist), and said cousin's partner (maybe they've recently gotten married?). All three live in Utah. My cousin and his partner have several adopted kids.

D'oh! Dumb, dumb Kevin. I also have a friend whom I met a few years ago in Albuquerque. He has published a couple of books and I've read them. Very cool man. So, that's at least four.

Five if I can count River.
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