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Old 02-18-2012, 09:59 AM
tigrrrlily tigrrrlily is offline
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"Trying to live according to the Golden Rule means trying to empathise with other people, including those who may be very different from us. Empathy is at the root of kindness, compassion, understanding and respect..."

Yeah fair enough, as a very good guide for ethical and compassionate interactions, but if this is the key to making things *uncomplicated*, doesn't it assume a) that we know exactly what we want and how we tick AND can communicate it clearly and that b) the things we want are never contradictory?

Similarly better self-knowledge, speaking up in the moment, saying exactly what we want - all of these are good practice for honest communication but not neccessarily uncomplicated.
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Old 02-21-2012, 01:51 AM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
I have been thinking of this thread lately because I'm beginning to reach my saturation point again with the same problems cropping up here all the time, the same questions, the amount of people who start off their posts saying their situation is unique yet we've seen their story here a gazillion times. I can't help it - I used to answer so many threads here, but lately I have no patience for most of them.

I don't lose patience so much as I just get worn out. Each tale of woe brings a bit of sadness with it and I can only absorb so much sadness before I feel overwhelmed. Between the empathetic pain, looking for wayward spam, and skimming for tone and snark, I find myself responding much less than I want.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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