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Old 10-18-2009, 06:45 AM
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Real women are on here! Take a read of what real women have to say and leave the little girls behind....

of course to do that you will have to act like a real man...

If you want some thoughts on that I have plenty to offer as I know what women look for in a real man.... real men attract real women.
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Old 10-18-2009, 06:48 AM
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Real women are on here! Take a read of what real women have to say and leave the little girls behind....

of course to do that you will have to act like a real man...

If you want some thoughts on that I have plenty to offer as I know what women look for in a real man.... real men attract real women.
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Old 10-18-2009, 01:21 PM
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If a person makes a statement that amounts to "I hate women," then calling them a misogynist is a bit of restating the obvious. It's like calling a person a racist after they state "I hate all the <insert ethnic slur>". The person's initial statement already includes an implied admission of such, and people make such statements specifically for the purpose of displaying their racism to an audience.

I have yet to encounter a male who has not been through an "all women eat souls" period. Depending on the man and circumstance they might spend a week, a month, a year as a misogynist, but I have yet to meet the man who has not spent at least a day with a sincere and passionate hatred of women in general.
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Old 10-18-2009, 03:50 PM
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Ya know, I don't expect you to really listen to this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. And yes, you are young, but I've known many people your age capable of grasping this, and since you've already claimed superior maturity due to your tough life in other posts, I'm just going to lay it out there.

You just love being a victim. Everything you've written suggests that you really embrace this victimhood. And I can certainly see why that would be appealing because that would mean that you don't have to take any responsibility for your own happiness. Just like your view on Karma, you seem to think that everybody owes you something. You even said that you were entitled to your girlfriend. I'm sure there's NOTHING you could have possibly done to precipitate your girlfriend leaving you. I'm sure that you view it as all her fault.

Well, as long as that's what you're looking for, that's what you're going to get. Getting tired of partners treating you like crap? Learn to stop picking such crappy partners and pick better partners. Rather than sitting around whining about how the world done you wrong, examine what you're doing to allow it to happen. Basically, take some responsibility for your circumstances.

This is what we call "growing up". You have great chance to make some great choices that will determine the man you're going to be. I'm sure you're more than capable of it too, but only if the attitude you continue to show in your posts makes a serious fundamental shift.

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Old 10-19-2009, 01:50 AM
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It probably would have gone over better to say that "All people that you have loved romantically have eaten your soul."

But at the same time, it is obvious that you are hurt.

All I can suggest is to learn from this. Not all women are like this. So see if you can reflect back on your relationship and see if there were clues that you missed.

For example, I had a girlfriend cheat on me. Upon looking back, I remember he telling me that she cheated in the past. I also caught her in a few lies for which there was no reason to lie (I would not have cared).

Live and learn.
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Old 10-19-2009, 05:15 AM
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RedPepper summed up my point well.

Going out now to pursue a 30 year old woman is not going to get you too far. Either you will get an immature brat of a girl who got older, or you will fail, because mature women in their 30s (or any age) want mature men.

No offense intended-but the first post I ever read from you I guessed you at barely 20 and then after reading a few more confirmed you were YOUNG. That's not a bad thing-we all are young at some point in our lives.

I had a rough life in many ways too-but the truth is that having "street smarts" from being treated like crap as a child does not a great partner make.
If you want to attract a great partner, first you have to know how to TRULY BE a great partner.

That means being able to see through the bs to what their hurts/weaknesses/strengths are so that you can promote their strengths and protect their weak spots and help guard them while they heal their hurts.

If you can't see it-then you can't do it and if you can't do that you can't be a great partner and if you can't be a great partner, you can't GET a great partner either without SERIOUS dumb luck-which is rare.
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Old 10-21-2009, 01:01 AM
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Ceoli - based on most of your posts, I have to say that if things don't work out with London, you should consider Vegas, lol. Violet, Anne, and I are continually impressed with your posts and talk about what you must be like in person frequently as a result.

And once again, Ceoli is right on the money.

Dude - many of us here read your posts and get... Uncomfortable? Annoyed and lamed out? All of the above and then some? It's like this - any time somebody points out that at your age you lack experience and a basis for comparitive thinking, you freak out. Since we don't want to offend you, we try not to come off like that or refrain from responding to you at all. Believe me when I tell you - girls just a few years older than you, buch less women almost twice you age age - will NOT tolerate that shit. There's a reason even very young adults use the term "high school crap" so derogatorily - many of the situations you describe are things we chalked up as learning experiences thankfully to be never repeated. As an adult almost exactly twice your age, I can say that it is infuriating trying to share the growth from that experience with someone like you, knowing it is completely wasted.

Both of my women are barely 3 or 4 years your senior. I don't generally shoot that young, they found me, lol, but I digress. The single most amazing thing to me about them - and that's a LONG list to find the top of - is the fact that when I pull the "age card", they LISTEN. It amazes me, because I wasn't NEARLY that mature at 20, lol. Not only are they mature for their age (almost 21 and just barely 21 to be precise), but they are willing to admit when my experience could help them and either ask for advice or respect it when I give it. I try to do this unsolicited very rarely, as you have to live to learn. Sometimes Violet will say to me "why didn't you tel me to handle that differently?" and I will say "because you eeded to figure that one out yourself".

And that's it right there. You have to live to learn, the only way to learn from advice is to take it on merit and faith. Faith lacking, you'll disregard it. And all that is only if you even listen in the first place - which you patently and repeatedly do not. If you don't want input and just want to vent about your life and how the world wrongs you, quit posting here and start a blog.

Otherwise - listen to people who've been there. Believe me, if you print all these threads out and put them in a box and read them again in 13 years, you will be so embarrassed you will burn them, lol. See - thats not an attack, that's a statement from experience - I would love nothing more than to be 17 again but with what I know now, lol!! I would love to take back 90% of what I did and said back then, and I am glad that computers weren't so popular and digital cameras weren't aroud and no facebook or myspace - very little record of my 17 year old idiocy exists outside of my and a few other people's minds. Thank God...
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Old 10-21-2009, 01:49 AM
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Dude - many of us here read your posts and get... Uncomfortable? Annoyed and lamed out? All of the above and then some? It's like this - any time somebody points out that at your age you lack experience and a basis for comparitive thinking, you freak out. Since we don't want to offend you, we try not to come off like that or refrain from responding to you at all. Believe me when I tell you - girls just a few years older than you, buch less women almost twice you age age - will NOT tolerate that shit. There's a reason even very young adults use the term "high school crap" so derogatorily - many of the situations you describe are things we chalked up as learning experiences thankfully to be never repeated. As an adult almost exactly twice your age, I can say that it is infuriating trying to share the growth from that experience with someone like you, knowing it is completely wasted.


Otherwise - listen to people who've been there. Believe me, if you print all these threads out and put them in a box and read them again in 13 years, you will be so embarrassed you will burn them, lol. See - thats not an attack, that's a statement from experience - I would love nothing more than to be 17 again but with what I know now, lol!! I would love to take back 90% of what I did and said back then, and I am glad that computers weren't so popular and digital cameras weren't aroud and no facebook or myspace - very little record of my 17 year old idiocy exists outside of my and a few other people's minds. Thank God...

This. Learn it. Know it. Live it. DUDE!
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Old 10-21-2009, 02:45 AM
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Ceoli - based on most of your posts, I have to say that if things don't work out with London, you should consider Vegas, lol. Violet, Anne, and I are continually impressed with your posts and talk about what you must be like in person frequently as a result.
I am considering going to Vegas for my up coming 40th!!! To bad Ceoli is not me
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Real women are on here! Take a read of what real women have to say and leave the little girls behind....

of course to do that you will have to act like a real man...

If you want some thoughts on that I have plenty to offer as I know what women look for in a real man.... real men attract real women.
You asked me to "go on" Berserker.... if I thought you would actually listen to me I wold bother. I commend you for at least hanging out to hear what people say.... There have been many others that have given you lots of good stuff to think about. Good luck.
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