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Old 10-13-2009, 06:20 AM
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Thanks..but I think I might be in for it
good luck w/that!
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Old 10-13-2009, 06:37 AM
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I can agree with the change of words from "equal" to "fair." "Fair" to me means that you are treated proportionality to the work you put in to something. All steps to being "equal."

However, you, my love, have TONS of influence in what we do as a family. We could not ever be the same without you and your influence. To say that you are not equally considered in all that we do would be a lie. Every move we make together we consider you in it. You may not be here to raise our child, pay our mortgage, and work a job to contribute, but your place within our family is established and that is the pay off of being the poster child for our "polyness" to the rest of our family.

I hope it's worth it. Because we know you are.

I think you think so too, because you wouldn't deal with it all if you didn't.

So sorry for this hijack....
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Old 10-13-2009, 06:40 AM
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I hope it's worth it.
...you are worth it
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Old 10-13-2009, 08:16 PM
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Why can't people accept that being treated fairly doesn't mean being treated the same.
You just summed up my personal political position and all the issues I have with modern liberal policies in one sentence, lol.

Joedirte - that is ROUGH, man. A few years ago one of the best friendships I have ever had was ruined by a not quitee the same situation (no poly involved, his GF kept hitting on me whe he wasn't around and I was held responsible for it, lol). The three of you REALLY need to sit and talk this out. Soon, and at length.
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Old 10-13-2009, 09:47 PM
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Why can't people accept that being treated fairly doesn't mean being treated the same.
If we could post this on signs everywhere it would make my day!!!!!
Every person is so different, we need the priviledge of being treated FAIRLY not equally. God forbid my 2 year old be allowed to borrow her auntie's car-something perfectly reasonable for my 18 year old. FAIR-but certainly not EQUAL.
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Old 10-14-2009, 08:12 AM
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hmmm.. I would like to argue that being treated equally doesn't mean being treated the same either! Equal consideration to my emotions (even if, as in the case that Mono cites, I have less time invested in the family so I would need/want/have earned less involvement in family decisions - extreme example... OK so I wouldn't get to chose the kids school.. but you wouldn't up and leave for the other side of the world to live without considering what it would do to me).. Equal respect.. etc.

I don't want or expect to be treated the same as anyone, but I would like to think I am treated with equal *fairness* I guess you could say... so we are really saying the same thing Mono... just using different words

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