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Old 01-19-2011, 09:49 PM
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Question Marriage-minded female seeks unicorn too

Hi,

I am seeking a bit of a unicorn myself...

I am a single mom that has just turned 40. I have a daughter 14, sons 12, 10 1/2 and 9.

I have never legally married.

I was the second wife in a relationship for almost 10 years. The other wife was the legal one.

My experience in the poly community is that it consists mainly of couples who are already married.

I am seeking a situation where I can have a legal wedding, baby (in wedlock not out) before it's too late, benefits, etc.

So unicorn right?

Thanks for any feedback or advice.

G

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Old 01-19-2011, 10:43 PM
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That's not what a unicorn is. It sounds what you're looking for is called a "husband".

Also, I don't get what you mean by "baby before it's too late". You have 3 children already.
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Old 01-19-2011, 11:36 PM
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I meant to ever have a baby "in wedlock".

A husband in this lifestyle doesn't seem easy to obtain to me so hence my unicorn.
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Old 01-20-2011, 12:00 AM
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You've already got four kids, which is a lot, but you want to marry someone and have another just so that he or she will be "legitimate?"

I hope I am misunderstanding you!
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Old 01-20-2011, 12:35 AM
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You've already got four kids, which is a lot, but you want to marry someone and have another just so that he or she will be "legitimate?"

I hope I am misunderstanding you!
She only has 3 kids, which is still a lot.
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Old 01-20-2011, 02:33 AM
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You've already got four kids, which is a lot, but you want to marry someone and have another just so that he or she will be "legitimate?"

I hope I am misunderstanding you!
You are as I'd like all the kids and I to be legitimate.
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Old 01-20-2011, 05:13 AM
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She only has 3 kids, which is still a lot.
I count one girl and three boys.
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I have a daughter 14, sons 12, 10 1/2 and 9.
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Old 01-20-2011, 10:21 AM
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Hi,

I am seeking a bit of a unicorn myself...

I am a single mom that has just turned 40. I have a daughter 14, sons 12, 10 1/2 and 9.

I have never legally married.

I was the second wife in a relationship for almost 10 years. The other wife was the legal one.

My experience in the poly community is that it consists mainly of couples who are already married.

I am seeking a situation where I can have a legal wedding, baby (in wedlock not out) before it's too late, benefits, etc.

So unicorn right?

Thanks for any feedback or advice.

G
what does it matter if a child is born out of wedlock(not condoning teen sex though).... a peice of paper does not mean your married.... its whats in the hearts of the people that spend their lives together. Its between them and the Creator.
A baby born into this world is a wonderful thing.... and should not matter if he/she is born in or out of wedlock. Benefits... hmm not to be rude but it sounds as if your looking for a legal contract so to speak. Not for love.. but for the benefits of carrying the last name of the man your with.

I dont know if you know this or not..... but if you spend a certain amout of time with a person..... then your legally married by common law.. which in some states is just as good as going and getting a peice of paper. Look up common law marriage to see what im referring to. Again.. im not meaning to be rude... I just read your post and it sounded kind of strange. To have such desires as that... while wanting a poly relationship to.
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Old 01-20-2011, 10:24 AM
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and MY goodness.... I got 3 kids to.. and they keep me hopping all the time lol. 2 boys and a girl. Never boreing for sure... another question is HOW would you have the energy to keep up with a baby to.... the whole thing is kind of confusing
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I count one girl and three boys.
DUH my math is not working.
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