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10-02-2009, 09:59 PM
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can a poly love a mono?
i'm polyamorous....does that mean i have to date other Polyamorous women or should i broaden my horizon? Can i date a mono and still live my lifestyle or am i doomed to resort to like minded individuals?
Is there anyone out there living this way, loving a mono? If so then what has your experience been like? 
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10-02-2009, 10:07 PM
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10-02-2009, 11:30 PM
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Simply put, yes, a poly can love a mono. That doesn't mean that the mono will accept their love living a poly lifestyle or that they will join into a poly family (as I am learning the hard way) but basically a V relationship is just that, one poly with two mono's otherwise it becomes a W or a tangle or some other form.
If you want to have a truly poly relationship and a truly healthy relationship then you will have to at least have your partners', whether mono or poly, acceptance of your poly ways. And if you've read any of the forum you may have noticed that Redpepper loves a mono man, MonoV in fact.
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10-03-2009, 03:48 AM
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Are you serious! Have you read anything on this forum???
 Of course you can.... Not without tons of work, but then poly is work anyway.
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10-03-2009, 02:02 PM
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Is it just me or does using words like "a poly" and "a mono" make it sound like two different species of animals or two different gangs or something like that? The Poly's vs. The Mono's.
We're people! Being poly or mono is about how we have relationships! (taking my tongue out of my cheek now)
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10-03-2009, 04:48 PM
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My "second" (another description that makes me ill) doesn't just live a mono relationship. He is in love with one person, not even one person at a time, just flat one person. Since he was 17 years old he's been in love with one person. His heart is wired for only one person ever. Now for me that concept isn't just "foreign" it's so completely impossible it's like someone telling me that ET really landed and is waiting on my doorstep to come in! But for him the fact that I can and do love him and my husband and my ex girlfriend deeply and permantently.... that isn't just a foreign concept for him, it's impossible for him. So sometimes those words help us understand instrinsic parts of a person that without being close to them we otherwise wouldn't comprehend at all and even with the words we only grasp peripherally.
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10-03-2009, 04:57 PM
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(LR, I was being tongue in cheek with what I posted, meaning I wasn't being terribly serious about it.
 ) There are all sorts of conversations that have been had and to be had about the relationships that exist between our identities and our lifestyles and everything in between, I get that. I was just remarking about how funny it sounded in general, that's all.
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10-03-2009, 05:58 PM
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Sorry Ceoli! I have issues getting nuances in text at times! But I wasn't offended.
I've really enjoyed the last week of reading your posts. Feel like I'm really learning a lot!
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10-04-2009, 12:04 AM
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I am totally new to this understanding of my life as it stands(meaning I really didnt have a definetion of how my relationship functions).My wife is a poly she loves many ppl at the same time some near to us some very distant.I have allways considered myself mono.Once I REALLY accepted my wife for who she is and has to be in order to be true to herself.I realised I was only scared and I worried about how I would look to outside ppl.
Seeing her grow and thrive seeing her become a joy to the world, I mean wow it blows my mind,Forces me to look at love in a whole new light. So.. to give my opinon I think a poly can love a mono and visaversa but all involved need to understand and accept the others. If they can do that REALLY do that then anything is possible.
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10-04-2009, 01:04 AM
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I hope so
 Sustainability is the bigger question...can a poly exist healthily in love with a mono and vice a versa for a long time....That is question! And yes, I intend to answer it!! But that's the only question I am answering....I am mono afterall, one at a time for this cracker!!
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 Playing the Game of Life with Monopoly rules. Monogamy might just be in my genes Poly Events All Over Last edited by MonoVCPHG; 10-05-2009 at 06:34 PM.
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