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Old 10-03-2009, 12:05 AM
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I am 50 years old. Jill's mother and mine were also best friends. Thank you for all the warm loving expressions of your thoughts and feelings. I feel very welcome here.
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Old 10-03-2009, 04:22 AM
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I'm so glad that you feel welcomed. Your story was VERY uplifting and moving!
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Old 10-03-2009, 01:30 PM
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. The only female friends I can say I have had my whole life are my sisters. I do not do understand women in some ways. I was always a tomboy when younger and in high school, those I was around were always back stabbing their so-called friends. You are lucky to have had a friendship such as that. I know you must miss her deeply.

As for your new realtionship with Fred, I can see the natural progression of that considering it was something that seemed to be on the table for years. I hope all goes well for you.

I wondered...do the three of you live together or still maintain the two households?

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Old 10-03-2009, 09:58 PM
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Default We are moving in with Fred

We have decided to blend our lives completely so we are selling our house. It is an exiting and very busy time for the three of us. We spend most of our spare time together anyway. The children are our only obstacle. What should we tell them?
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Old 10-04-2009, 02:35 AM
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The children are grown I presume?
Wow that is a toughy!

I know for me I find it easy to just be up front with my kids. I have no issue with letting them know-but that's somewhat different....

My oldest daughter knows I'm poly by nature (she just turned 18) and she knows I've been in a functioning poly family pretty much her whole life in one fashion or another.

My stepson-I dont' know what he knows/understands. There are some difficulties in knowing that because of psychological issues he has.

My youngest are 9 years and 2 years and they are clueless about SEX but know perfectly well that we have a 4 adult household and that we all love and care for one another..... it's been that way their whole lives.

However-"coming out" as to the EXTENT of our relationship... my hubby is very private on that note and so we haven't TOLD THEM (or anyone else) at this point. But myself personally tend toward the blunt.

I think it's a bit more touchy for your situation with the death of one of the core people in your group... I think I would ease into it something like Redpepper and mono described in dealing with the parents....

Please keep us posted, I'm interested to know what you come up with and how it works as we will eventually have family to integrate into our situation as well!
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Old 10-05-2009, 07:15 PM
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A belated welcome to the forum, Ursilla, and a big hug.
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Old 10-05-2009, 08:12 PM
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I am very happy to be part of your community
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Old 10-22-2009, 09:14 PM
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Old 10-25-2009, 02:09 AM
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wow! What a great story. It seems to me a very natural thing and you three seem very mature in your friendship/relationship to be able to change the dynamics of your interactions now. So very very awesome and inspiring! I wish you three the best of luck and it sounds like you are already well on your way I think this new dynamic is very exceptional considering a death was sort of the catalyst for the change. You all three now have one more person who is that much closer to you... or it almost seems you were that close already it was just a matter of going ahead and expressing it more physically and intimately.
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