V or Triad or Something InBetween?

[Renee52873]

So, I figured I would take a minute to expand on my story from the intro thread.

As I explained there, I am married to an amazing man, "S", and have been for 14 years. Early in our marriage, we often fantasized about different scenarios in our sexlife, but never really had any intention of branching out from our "mono" lifestyle. We were both raised in Christian homes where that was the only accepted way to have a relationship. I do believe we needed time to really adjust to each other and build a trust before venturing out, but it also became an issue of finding the "right" person. I never really thought that would happen until I met "A".

I have always been bi-curious, but never explored that curiosity. When I met "A", that all changed. We met online and then began talking on the phone and it's amazing the chemistry between us that I felt although we had never met. And when we did meet...that first kiss was amazing.

We weren't quite sure how everything would play out because she lives on the East Coast and I on the West Coast, but we knew we wanted and still want each other. It was a very rocky start. She gets to feeling very lonely and extremely jealous of "S" because he gets to be with me everyday and she can't. We've worked through that and though it's much better, there are still times she is lonely.

Now, when we are together, sometimes it's just me and her, but other times it's me, her, and my husband. I know she loves me and cares deeply for my husband, but she isn't "in love" with him. She wants to meet a husband of her own and get married someday. We've talked about the possibility of the 3 of us just living together and raising kids together, and she has considered that, but she wants a husband. So we talk about that scenario as well.

I guess I'm not looking for input and I really don't care what we are labeled cause it doesn't really matter, but it's very confusing sometimes because there are times when she wants nothing to do with my hubby and other times that she wants him involved. We've been together for 2 years, and it gets easier, but it's still confusing and sometimes very painful, but I have to say that the only reason we are still together is the fact that we talk. Whenever someone is feeling something, they share it. The only way we can work it out is to communicate.

I really don't even know if there was a point to this. It just feels good to talk. Oh...and I get to see my girl t the end of the month! I miss her sooooo much. She is coming to see me Halloween weekend. The last time I saw her was in July!

[aussielover]

Congrats for finding A!
From my perspective, you have more of a V than a triad. Being in a triad, there is love between all three members. Like in our situation Sunshinegrl & Aussiebloke are married, SG and I love each other and AB and I love each other. If I were in love with one and not the other, even if I occasionally 'played' with the other, I would consider it a V. Not sure if you were really asking, but the title implied lol. So there's my imput. That and the fact she wants to find her own husband. Perhaps it might migrate into a quad at that point, but it doesn't seem she's truely interested in a triad.