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Old 09-27-2009, 08:00 PM
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Hello !

Just thought i'd share my story with you. For 2 reasons really, it will be the first time ever i will share this. And i might inspire others to just make the step to start a relationship like this, because it feels so good.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 years. A year back i got back in contact with my old (female) friend, who i was roommates with 11 years ago. We were very close back then, and just good friends. She never knew i was madly in love with her, i never told her back then how i felt. We did kiss a few times, but never went much further than that. I moved out, and lost sight of her. My collegue had her added to a profile site, and i sent her a message.

That all happened last year. I went to her house and we still got along very good right away. I invited her and her daughter over to my house, and introduced her to my girlfriend. They had a connection right away, and we became close friends. Then, after a month, one night, we were at her house. My girlfriend started massaging her, and after a while they started kissing... i joined in and we enjoyed that very much. the next evening it happened again, and the next day... This was new to all of us, so we kept doing this every now and then. But the friendship tightened up aswell, also because of the intimacy.

We had many discussions, and we made a few rules about the "relationship" we had to make it work. They were very simple rules, but a must to make it work out for all 3. Something along the lines of: We are with 3 people and having 1 relationship. There will be no 1 on 1 relationship between me and our friend, or my girlfriend and our friend. We must be open and honest to eachother about everything. We should not fall in love with our friend and our friend should not fall in love with us. Those were a few of the rules.
We went to France on holiday last april, the three of us and had one hell of a week !

A few weeks after this holiday we had a conversation, and our friend admitted she was in love with both of us. By that time we all admitted it, and agreed we were in love with eachother, and started this wonderfull relationship.
Now, 5 months later we are still happy and enjoying eachother to the fullest. We talk alot about it, but that's all between us, just a little select group of the "outside world" know about what we have. Our friends daughter is just 7 years old, so she is not old enough to understand what is going on. But later on, when she is old enough, we might tell her what is really going on.

So there you go, it's out in the open. Hope you enjoyed reading this

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Old 09-27-2009, 10:28 PM
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Yay!

Glad you got past those pesky "rules".
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