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Old 04-02-2011, 05:59 AM
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About to be married.
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Old 04-06-2011, 01:52 AM
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Default Married for 14 years, poly for 1

DavidWebb and I have been married for a bit ;-) and opened our marriage about a year ago! Neither of us ever thought it would look like this but we sure are making the best of it!
Married for 14 years to an amazing man, "David Webb" on the forum
Discovered that I was poly in January 10,
forging my path together with the best partner I could ever ask for!
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Old 04-07-2011, 01:44 PM
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my partner and i have been together 10 years (and are getting married tomorrow!) and have been practicing poly all along
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Old 04-08-2011, 12:16 AM
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Smile ooh ooh ... us ... us

That would be us ...

Been together for 36 years - married for 34 - Poly/Open marriage from the beginning - the circles continue to turn.

Just Us,
Tim & Trisha
Round & round the circle goes.
We seek the ones who will share in love.
In our dreams the answers come.
Round & round the circle goes.
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Old 04-08-2011, 02:37 AM
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Never married, never wanted to be married. My girlfriend is, though.
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Old 04-08-2011, 07:51 PM
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Married for almost 16 years. My wife has been developing a relationship with a woman for a month now. They are just seeing where it goes and how it works out. I am not sure if that counts us as a "Yes" or not though.
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Old 04-08-2011, 08:44 PM
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Originally Posted by RitaFire View Post
I am wondering how many people are in the same situation as my husband and I. They got married many years ago (at least 10 lets say), with the intention of being monogamous. Then decided to explore poly.
I think this is a different question from the one you asked though It seems a bunch of people who are married where poly before they married, rather than getting married then coming out. So I don't think the answers are going to be that useful to answer your question...

I assume it's more challenging if you have to adapt to a poly situation than if you start into one right away. Seems kind of a no-brainer to me. Some people might find they fall into it "naturally" though, if they're both poly. It's when one partner comes out as poly and the other isn't that it would be an issue.
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Old 04-08-2011, 09:03 PM
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My husband and I were monogamous for a lot of years before exploring poly. We've been together for 17 years now, we started discussing non-monogamy about 7(ish) years ago. We have always had some openness to our relationship though, kissing and flirting were always understood as being ok for us to be involved in with others.
Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok it's not the end.
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Old 04-08-2011, 09:11 PM
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Married to Sundance for 12 years. Starting crushing on Butch Cassidy about 5 years ago. Crush turned into an affair, which almost caused a divorce, but instead (happily) led us to a polyamorous V on 10-10-10. It's been a bronco ride ever since! VERY challenging for Sundance. I love him so much for hanging on for the ride
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Old 04-09-2011, 03:47 PM
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Married 12 years, still sexually monogamous.

If it weren't for this forum I'd be having emotional affairs (cheating without sex) but thanks to all you lovely people who like to give advice here, it is all in the open now. I consider myself emotionally polyamorous and my husband accepts me for that.

I can't tell you how grateful I am, for the help I've gotten from this community. Life-changing advice, really. Thanks!
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