I tend to lurk, but....

I think this community is amazing for self reflection and relationship growth. I so appreciate the advice I read. I think it's applicable is so many ways.

I have asked for advice here before and found it helpful.

I have come back and begun reading more as my partner and I continue to learn about each other and work ethically through the fact that his best friend is my best friend. It all goes fine until all the feelings flare up, I try to call it for what it is (even without sexual contact, we are essentially a V) and my partner runs screaming from the room. BFF is more in touch, he has always said 'I consider myself your other husband.' We are so close, the options (as I see them) are work through this, or distance ourselves from BFF. We've tried the latter, but everyone was very sad and two years later, we're back to the same place again.

No matter how it all works out, my desire is to work on the ole 'who am I,' and I'm glad there is a community for this.

Greetings elle,
Good to hear from you. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Sounds like your V goes BFF + you (hinge) + your partner. Unless your partner and BFF also have romantic feelings for each other? Then it would be a triad (triangle).

Regardless, we're here for you. Let us know of any questions or concerns you may have.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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