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Old 03-11-2011, 08:49 PM
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Old 03-11-2011, 08:56 PM
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nycindie...hi

I have absolutely no idea who joel and hedda are or their story but this was consensual. What does nervous break down mean?? Perhaps I'm having one right now .....kidding.

I was suppose to call her back and talk to her however I've been putting it off didn't feel like put himself through that.

To clarify I knew nothing of this. Never was told of any of this.

Why should I stop calling her those names....after all the time, money, energy, I should have more of a right to use that language. They or rather he ...(and she allowed) to be called those names repeatedly or to use those crude terms describe her body parts in emails and with markers on her body. That's the reason I didn't call....I really want to know if she would enjoy me calling her those names....by the way I only listed the ones I could remember there are more.

Photo's not staged... emails not staged....pretty sure.

And yes I have appointment for therapy for myself and I hope it will help.

Compassion for my kids ...Yes... but I'm not at a place yet to extend any compassion to them. Their behavior since the melt down has been less....way fucking less then impressive. Some responsibility for this might go a long way. They can do what ever they want then and now I get to do the fucking clean up and in addition I'm suppose to be kind and compassionate, reasonable. ....REALLY.

I promise nothing I do will impact my children in a negative way. my left hand was up the entire time I typed it......I'm right handed

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Old 03-11-2011, 08:57 PM
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mono thats the first good laugh I've had in a while
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Old 03-11-2011, 09:12 PM
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Just so you know, while you might not be used to seeing photos like hers, they are not uncommon for those in a BDSM lifestyle. If you have ever looked at Fetlife you will see photos like hers. They are drama and release for some people. Who knows where she came from when having them taken. For some there is a sense of pride. It might be that she had no choice.

I said in an earlier post, it could be that she is owned by him as a slave. He could be her master and she could take that very seriously. You need to find out if this is manipulative abuse, or her choice before nailing her to the cross I think.
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Old 03-11-2011, 09:22 PM
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Carma

Are you sure...I wont feel better ...I'm thinking maybe just a little.

unfortunately they have indeed made it about me in there emails. Trust me I have perspective.


Wow never thought of my wedding vows... No I didn't take the name calling out of context I have the context. lets all be clear I have yet to call her any of those things yet. I plan to.... but I haven't yet.

And yes it may make me feel better....maybe not but I will to risk it. Less risk than some stuff I can think of.
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Old 03-11-2011, 09:22 PM
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Might I ask (of dinged on behalf of everyone).

It's been MY impression that this is a venting place for Dinged. If that is the case, he has chosen a very reasonable, rational method for dealing with his high-strung (to be expected) emotions in a way that is not damaging to his children...


I grant that he sounds furious (as would I be) but to assume that he's acting it out is a whole other thing....


Having the professionals do their job in investigating every avenue so that they can ensure the best method to help the children... well that isn't vindictive, that ball was set rolling when he said "help, my daughter isn't ok"......

Dinged, am I mistaken in this observation?

I think that a lot of the "OMG what are you going to do you sound so pissed" reactions are based on the belief that what you are venting here, is what is coming out throughout the day, but that isn't my impression...........
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Old 03-11-2011, 09:29 PM
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You could be right but if it is a sense of pride why hide 200 miles away a let others clean up the mess.

Not trying to be funny but she has already been nailed while be nailed to a cross. Tied actually.

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Old 03-11-2011, 09:39 PM
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To clarify I knew nothing of this. Never was told of any of this.
I meant that you knew she was having a relationship with him. You had met him and were trying to accept it and be poly for her. Lots of poly couples don't know what their partner is doing with their other partners. But my point was that he could say (as a defense) you always knew they were carrying on.

Joel Steinberg and Hedda Nussbaum:
A Love Betrayed, a Brief Life Lost
Hedda Nussbaum at Wikipedia

I do hope LR is correct and that you are using this site as a healthy way to vent. But I also agree with Carma that your rage about this is scary. At least it does scare me. Please be careful.
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Old 03-14-2011, 05:53 AM
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I mentioned earlier that it might be worth clarifying if this is a place to vent for you dinged... I fully support that if it is. It's so important to have a place to vent and wlak yourself through what has happened and what you think you should do about it... I too would like to know if that is what this thread means to you... clarification?

Sorry, I laughed outloud at "asswhore." inapproporiate? I dunno, I thought it funny rather than scary, I would love to know if that is misplaced though, because it could easily be taken as scary also!
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Old 03-14-2011, 05:39 PM
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Bella
thank you ....it may end up happening that way.


Redpepper

As to the slave thing....what difference should that make to me. If that's true somebody owes me a check???? Last I checked she was using my name....I don't remember a transfer of ownership?? At the very least I've been housing, feeding, clothing "his " slave . What is the general day rate for a Slave ??? Is it better from a psychological point of view of the slave to have a high value or a low value because lets not forget were talking about a slave who is repeatedly told her status (fucktoy asswhore fuckpig) worthless or worth very little as a human. ?????

YES I'm Angry on many levels .....What I've said that is scary I'm not sure I understand. All the terms I used in reference to my wife were used by her in response in most cases to her "bf"/owner . I could give you an example of their very enlightening dialog if anyone needs clarification or understanding.

I must admit fuck boy was my invention.....condescending sure ...scary??? I don't think so.

NYcindie

Yes you are correct about the relationship...I understand.
After going on the link you provided and seeing her photo I did remember her beat up face being on the cover of People mag. Never really read about it at the time....or even today...if it becomes an issue I will. Thank you for the resource


New twist to the story....got a call few minutes ago from my new cop friend telling me fuck boy had unpleasant experience at a local night club back in Nov. Apparent his wife was out with girl friends and was dancing with some guy and he got up set. Had words with the guy ...it got a little physical he got thrown out.... started man handling wife...bouncer flagged the cops.... they step in to cool things down. They left in separate cars. No arrest. I bet Cumslut took a pretty good beating over that one.....I bet she didn't even know...poor dumb slave.

My daughter was getting the mail Sat and came in the house and said what are we going to do with her mail? Then held up a piece and said I wonder what they'd think. My wife sits on 2 charity boards....one is the women s shelter...which had sent something related to an upcoming event...I opened it to see if it was something she would or should respond right away. I told her that was a great question and all her questions that I can't answer should be written down and presented to her mom and or therapist.

Bought the family an Ipad that same day. My new tech friend was helping set it up and asked if we wanted this email app...to merge all email accounts ...my daughter and I answer at the exact same time with about the same intensity NO . Then she looked at me with a smile....knowing we were on the same page. What cool device...I personally will have very little time with it ..... no major fights yet.

Sun talked to sister in law for update....not getting better might be getting worse. Was reluctant to answer any questions of fuck boys recent involvement....might have a distorted view of situation. I couldn't talk freely on my end so I let it go. I think she needs to see everything I have now accumulated. Grandma has been extremely quiet lately... how strange..

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