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Hi,
I'm the male part of a couple who's wife "F" has entered into a loving poly relationship.
We are both in our early 50s, been sweethearts since school and married for 32 years. We are both still very fit and active. We have been monogamous for all our lives apart from one incident of straying by me over 10 years ago, that was painful but ultimately dealt with. I have always known that my partner was very special and I always felt had more to give.
A few years ago we moved into a new community and then just over two years ago met a single seperated man "M", who over two years became very close. He had had a rough time due to the financial crisis and his family let him down. Over a period he became like a second family to us with us making sure he was looked after if he was unwell, organising birthday parties etc.
A few months ago this close relationship became physical. It was not planned, just sort of happened, and seemed like a natural next step. While we remain living separately, we have regular "family" days where we cook, watch tv, walk, shop together etc and sleep together.
The physical side works in two ways, sometimes its the 3 of us together, and sometimes its just F and M together. I am learning, slowly, to share her. I have found Franklin Veaux's book invaluable. I won't pretend its all been easy for me, and we are taking small steps. The sex and intimacy has been the easy bit for me as we have always been open and experimental, its more the "spacial" issues. I.e when she spends the night in his bed (with me in the guest room) or visits him alone. She has generally been excellent and understanding of us both. So has he.
He has asked if in the future if they could have one night a week alone at his house. Neither of us are ready for that yet but we are working on a plan to slowly get there. Step by step. Somedays I can happily let them go to bed together and play, sleep, wake up, play other days I do not object but I cannot sleep and my tummy hurts and I have to work hard to control my emotions, but have managed successfully so far. Some days if they just get me for the last play, or the 1st play I am fine.
One of the interesting things us how different we are. I am practical, he isn't, I'm a scientist, he's an artist. I make her physical things, he writes her poetry. We even naturally go on opposite sides of her, me to her left, him to the right. On many things like politics, music, arts etc we are very close.
Without rambling too much, I feel we have come a long way and done exceptionally well so far.
I have mainly registered here because I would like to chat with like minded and more experienced people as other than my beautiful loving partner there is no immediate support network I can turn too.
I don't think many of our friend's or relatives would understand this but I am happy to share her, not becuase I don't love her but because I do.
I'm the male part of a couple who's wife "F" has entered into a loving poly relationship.
We are both in our early 50s, been sweethearts since school and married for 32 years. We are both still very fit and active. We have been monogamous for all our lives apart from one incident of straying by me over 10 years ago, that was painful but ultimately dealt with. I have always known that my partner was very special and I always felt had more to give.
A few years ago we moved into a new community and then just over two years ago met a single seperated man "M", who over two years became very close. He had had a rough time due to the financial crisis and his family let him down. Over a period he became like a second family to us with us making sure he was looked after if he was unwell, organising birthday parties etc.
A few months ago this close relationship became physical. It was not planned, just sort of happened, and seemed like a natural next step. While we remain living separately, we have regular "family" days where we cook, watch tv, walk, shop together etc and sleep together.
The physical side works in two ways, sometimes its the 3 of us together, and sometimes its just F and M together. I am learning, slowly, to share her. I have found Franklin Veaux's book invaluable. I won't pretend its all been easy for me, and we are taking small steps. The sex and intimacy has been the easy bit for me as we have always been open and experimental, its more the "spacial" issues. I.e when she spends the night in his bed (with me in the guest room) or visits him alone. She has generally been excellent and understanding of us both. So has he.
He has asked if in the future if they could have one night a week alone at his house. Neither of us are ready for that yet but we are working on a plan to slowly get there. Step by step. Somedays I can happily let them go to bed together and play, sleep, wake up, play other days I do not object but I cannot sleep and my tummy hurts and I have to work hard to control my emotions, but have managed successfully so far. Some days if they just get me for the last play, or the 1st play I am fine.
One of the interesting things us how different we are. I am practical, he isn't, I'm a scientist, he's an artist. I make her physical things, he writes her poetry. We even naturally go on opposite sides of her, me to her left, him to the right. On many things like politics, music, arts etc we are very close.
Without rambling too much, I feel we have come a long way and done exceptionally well so far.
I have mainly registered here because I would like to chat with like minded and more experienced people as other than my beautiful loving partner there is no immediate support network I can turn too.
I don't think many of our friend's or relatives would understand this but I am happy to share her, not becuase I don't love her but because I do.
