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Old 06-10-2014, 06:46 PM
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We probably shouldn't rule out the idea that the marriages could improve after all. What would it take? Couldn't hurt if it was something that could happen.
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Old 06-11-2014, 12:46 AM
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Hate to be blunt but Nudge isn't a kid person according to you.

How are you going to juggle three kids and a relationship with someone who doesn't like kids ?
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Hate to be blunt but Nudge isn't a kid person according to you.

How are you going to juggle three kids and a relationship with someone who doesn't like kids ?
I;m with you dag. his words, and I quote "my idea of happiness is not being a suburban stepfather" so. there you go. I was a lady with no kids, I'd only have the wife to worry about. But its really trifold....he wont leave the marriage, wants to be strictly poly, and doesn't want kids except for the occasional outtings.

So what am I doing here? good question.
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Old 06-17-2014, 05:49 PM
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There are many poly success stories out there, but there are also many poly stories that are not success stories.

How often do you get to be with Nudge? Where, and under what conditions?

What do you do about the kids? How do you feel about that?

How do J and Nudge's wife feel about poly?
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Old 06-17-2014, 05:56 PM
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There are many poly success stories out there, but there are also many poly stories that are not success stories.

How often do you get to be with Nudge? Where, and under what conditions?

What do you do about the kids? How do you feel about that?

How do J and Nudge's wife feel about poly?

We see each other twice a week, sometimes on weekends too. We spend time with the kids, took them out recently. J. is on board with how I feel about poly...whether its with me or someone else probably have some degree of openness but not full blow poly (ie. loving more than one). Nudge;s wife? I couldn't give you a straight answer about her if I tried...she hasn't been involved with him in months, agrees theyre separated...jerks him around...she mentioned to him she wasn't sure she was poly but still goes on dates has a bf. etc


Just to be honest, of the people I know of IRL, no one has a good poly relationship. im not saying it isn't possible. but I also know now, that I can love a man who loves someone else.
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Old 06-17-2014, 06:29 PM
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Well don't abandon all hope; I know of quite a few poly success stories (my own included).

Maybe your current situation is just something that has to be tediously hammered out a bit at a time. If worse comes to worst, you do still know that polyamory is something you have inside.
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I know of at least 4 poly families that are happy and healthy locally and several more in other states who I know personally.
*just an aside*
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Old 06-18-2014, 12:08 AM
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And of course Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness is a great place to renew your faith in poly.
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I know of at least 4 poly families that are happy and healthy locally and several more in other states who I know personally.
*just an aside*
I know LR, I'm not doubting it I guess I've just realized its not for me. I cant play second fiddle.
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Old 06-26-2014, 06:25 PM
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Poly's not for everyone; it's true.

I hope you find the right solution that works for you.
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