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Old 06-26-2014, 07:52 PM
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Question is this becoming a polyandrous relationship?

My Husband And I Have Been Married Over 3 Years. We've Been In A Relationship For More Than 7 Years. He's Been Known To Watch Porn Occasionally And My Eyes Have* Strayed A Couple Times, But We've Never Cheated On Each Other Or Introduced Anyone Into Our Sex Life.
In Our First Apartment Together A Good Friend Of Mine, Who I've Known Since Junior High, Stayed With Us On A Regular Basis. This Is The Year I Got Pregnant With My First Child. For The Next Four Years A Had Limited Contact With My Friend. Despite The Fact That He And My Husband Are Great Friends My Friend Was Not There For The Birth Of My Daughter Or My Wedding. He Would Only Telling Me From Time To Time That "It Wasn't My Fault."

This Past Year In October My Friend Began Spending Time With OuR Family, Now Including 2 Boys From My Husbands Previous Marriage. As A Family We Have Decided To Live Together.
We Frequently Take Trips Together, And Have Alone Time. I Love Him, And When I Say This HE Says He Loves Me Back, But Never Fails To Express Love For My Husband And Children Too
Recently We Began Sharing Finances. WheN He Learned Our Income Wasn't Meeting The Budget He Went And Obtained A Better Paying Job. I Am Completely Myself With Him. I Am More At Ease With Him Than Anyone I've Ever Known, Including My Husband.
We Have Never Been Physical, Other Than Hugs.However, He Gives Frequent Compliments.
I've Asked If He IA PursuingWomen And He Told Me "Not Unless They Are Okay With What's Going On Here. If I Were, You'd Already Know About It"

I'm Beginning To Think He Is More Than A Roommate, And Maybe More Than A Friend.I'd Really Like Some Feedback. If You See What IM Seeing What Do I Do To Get Them To Understand And Accept Tha We Aren't Doing Anything Wrong By Committing To One Another?
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Old 06-26-2014, 08:08 PM
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Who is "Them"?
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Old 06-26-2014, 08:36 PM
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Who is "Them"?
My Husband And My Friend.
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Old 06-26-2014, 09:08 PM
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I'm Beginning To Think He Is More Than A Roommate, And Maybe More Than A Friend.I'd Really Like Some Feedback. If You See What IM Seeing What Do I Do To Get Them To Understand And Accept Tha We Aren't Doing Anything Wrong By Committing To One Another?
Dear Thor that was difficult to read. Why are you capitalizing the first letter of every word? It makes your post very hard to read.

As far as the spirit of your question, if I understand correctly this is the breakdown:
Married to Husband for years in a strictly monogamous relationship.
There is Friend, who is a close friend of the family.
Friend has moved in with you and Husband, it's working out great.
You feel like there is the potential for a romantic connection between you and Friend.
You are not sure how to start the conversation to bring it up?
You're going to need to talk with them. There is a previous discussion on the topic here, might help:

How to approach my partner about poly
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Old 06-26-2014, 09:18 PM
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Well in that case what I would do is talk to your husband about it first and feel him out on the subject. Then talk to your friend and be fully and truthfull with both of them. That's what I did, and I'm happier than I have ever been in my life since I had those conversations.
I wish you the very best of luck! I know hoe freighting having this conversation can be!
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