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Old 04-21-2014, 05:18 AM
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I also can't do long distance relationships. My two primary love languages are quality time and physical touch. Not so much things you can do when you're rarely in the same physical space. And I have very little desire to sit in front of a computer or phone on Skype/some other video chat for hours on end just to have a "date night." I like date nights to happen weekly, if I can't see you weekly - I don't want to date you.
Same here. Sam is actually considering renting the house 2 doors down. He is only 5 minutes away now but being able to go back and forth bring him meals whenever I want will be awesome
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:11 PM
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Well I speak only for myself when I say this: I ideally would probably get to know some one online for at least a few months or even a year before I even think about "meeting up".~

My thinking is that if we really might have a future together then simply talking to each other would make our days better and when we do get to finally "meet" it will be even better.~

I'm not the kind of person who "needs" some one right now, it would be nice though, I am comfortable not being in a romantic relationship.~ If I do meet some one in person and we eventually fall in love, I would ideally like to be with them always from then on, but I'm not the kind of person who has a "hole" and "needs to be in a romantic relationship to be complete".~

I enjoy intimate interaction with any one like hugs, kisses, cuddling, etc. but I want to have a loving connection with some one instead of "needing" one.~ It would be extremely nice I imagine to experience such a thing, but I don't have any regrets if I were to die and it never happened.~

There are ways of "exploring" and learning about some one's "self" that go far beyond "physical ways" such as "talking" in a intimate way that highly opens up emotions, ways of thought, etc.~ These are just as extremely important to me as "being physical" with some one is.~

I meant that "New York" as an exotic country as in I've never been there and it's extremely far from me especially considering my feet are my main source of transportation.~
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:13 PM
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I don't like to waste time online/texting because too often I've met someone and had zero chemistry or attraction.
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:17 PM
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I don't like to waste time online/texting because too often I've met someone and had zero chemistry or attraction.
There are no "guarantees" in life, life "owes" you nothing, you have just as much chance of dying if you consider yourself to be "a wonderful person" than if you consider yourself to be "a horrible person".~

Some thing you have put much time and effort into could not turn out how you expected it to, it could happen.~

Any thing is possible at any time, I'm not saying your "reasoning" leading your decision isn't justified, but I personally do not let possibility stop me from living.~
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:26 PM
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Distance doesn't matter to me at all. I like getting to know people online, and I don't even mind being in a permanent LDR. But then, I'm an asexual relationship anarchist who values the abstract mental connection over anything else, and I realize that not everyone is like me. Some people really need frequent face-to-face time to connect with a partner, or they have a strong need for physical/sexual intimacy, or they can't/don't want to relocate or travel too often, etc. I think it's more likely about not wanting a long-term LDR than not wanting to get to know each other online.
I'm glad to hear to your perspective as much as every one else's perspectives.~

This kind of discussion is exactly what I wanted to open up with this thread.~ ^_^
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:32 PM
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There are no "guarantees" in life, life "owes" you nothing, you have just as much chance of dying if you consider yourself to be "a wonderful person" than if you consider yourself to be "a horrible person".~

Some thing you have put much time and effort into could not turn out how you expected it to, it could happen.~

Any thing is possible at any time, I'm not saying your "reasoning" leading your decision isn't justified, but I personally do not let possibility stop me from living.~
Yep, I could die next week, my time is just too precious to waste if it could be avoided.
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:39 PM
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Yep, I could die next week, my time is just too precious to waste if it could be avoided.
Every thing could "be a waste" and every thing could "be worth doing", it's all a matter of your perspective of how you see it.~

I respect your perspective, but for myself I see every thing as precious to me no moment "is wasted" and every thing matters to me.~
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Old 04-21-2014, 09:26 PM
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I understand your perspective and why you would choose to live that way.
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New York is exotic, if you live somewhere like Egypt or Malaysia. It's all relative. Even for me, I'm Canadian so it's not that distant or foreign, however it's a completely different culture and mindset than the tiny city I live in. It's very multicultural, too, so even if the city itself isn't exotic, it has a pretty exotic population.

It's just not exotic if you live there, just like Thailand isn't exotic if you're Thai.
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Old 04-22-2014, 12:25 AM
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It's very multicultural, too, so even if the city itself isn't exotic . . .
Exactly... "the city itself." Or the state. Whether someone considers New York exotic or not, last I checked, it is not a country.

Geez, SC, I thought you'd get the joke.
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