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Old 04-23-2014, 02:31 AM
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Ugh. If my friend made me choose which of my partners to bring (assuming I was able to be open), I would just not come at all.
That would be true for me as well.
BUT having planned a wedding on my own dime, I also understand that just because someone accepts their poly friends, doesnt mean that they can afford all of them to be at the wedding. AND it doesn't mean that they are responsible to invite people that they don't know either.
It does mean that if they need to limit the number of people in attendance that way, they need to also respect that some people will not come because of it and THAT IS OK.
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Old 04-23-2014, 04:55 AM
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"Fine then! I won't even COME to your stupid wedding! Hmmf." Ha. I showed them. Try and make me choose, will they? What do they think this is?



I know you don't mean it like that. That's just how my brain is choosing to hear it...

Personally I would just choose one, but we're not a knit family like you guys. Chances are Gralson would be out of town anyway, and Auto doesn't get the chance to escape nearly enough.
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Old 04-23-2014, 05:51 AM
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Sometimes we go in duos. Sometimes all three. But If I opted not to go because only one was invited, it would be on the assumption it was a fincial issue, not a personal affront.
I see NOTHING wrong with saying to someone that their presence is important to you BUT you cant afford to invite parterns at all, or only one or two or who cares how many.
My wedding I invited who mattered to Maca and I. OTHER people were offended we had GG walk the kids up the aisle and stand with us. Who cares? Our wedding.
Other people were offended we invited xyz person. Who cares? Our wedding.
Other people were offended we did not invite tuv people. Who cares, our wedding.

But since the op said, they are looking at small and intimate, financial issues are a factor AND they dont want to offend. Invite the most important people +1. Could give friend AND bf an invite individually +1 and again, they coukd decide if they want to go together or with their other partners or invite their friend/neice/nephew/ sibling/parent whatever.
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Other people were offended we did not invite tuv people.
What does "tuv people" mean?
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What does "tuv people" mean?
a,b,c,.....t,u,v,(w),x,y,z
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Old 04-27-2014, 04:23 AM
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a,b,c,.....t,u,v,(w),x,y,z
Oh good lord! Are you shitting me, I missed that? Never heard anyone use that sequence, it's usually either abc or xyz, so I stared at that sentence for a good long time and could not for the life of me figure out what tuv stood for, hahahaha.

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sorry Nyc. LOL, I didn't want to use xyz again and I didn't want to use abc cause it might suggest abc should be more important. LOL
So I just picked 3 other sequenced letters.
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LOL, I can't decide whether to use hij or nop.
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LOL!!!

Okay, I will admit to something ridiculously embarrassing...

After a few minutes of wracking my brains trying to figure out what the term "tuv people" meant, since LR lives in Alaska I wondered, "maybe that's a kind of Eskimo?" You know, like a name for a group, such as Inuit, Aleut... Tuv!

Hey, I said it was embarrassing.
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Tuv sounds Native Alaskan to me. But I don't think there could be such a thing as a Nop-Nop tribe.

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