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Old 03-17-2014, 11:47 PM
TheThing TheThing is offline
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Hello all!

I'm a 20-something current grad-student who has been familiar with the idea of poly relationships for quite a while (probably around 10 years--I was a precocious reader. Heh), and who has always found them to be just as logical as two-person relationships. I can't say that I prefer one over the other, just that my reaction to love triangles in stories and books has always been "idiot--just date both". I am, however, personally only really into the idea of long-term, stable relationships, whatever form they take. One-night stands and casual stuff ain't my cuppa, though I totally understand and appreciate that others really like them.

Currently I'm in the middle of a situation that might (or might not--the signals are a tad weird) be developing into a triad. I say "might not" because often it feels like we are really moving in that direction (or already there emotionally), and some times it feels like I'm the third wheel (which might be normal at this stage. Not like there are people I can talk about this with often ). I shall endeavor to explain the weirdness of the situation in a later post in the proper area of the forum.

Any who, figured I'd stop by and say hi!
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Old 03-19-2014, 07:59 PM
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Greetings TheThing,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Feeling like a third wheel is indeed a common occurrence in triad formulation, so don't read too much into it unless there there are red-flag behaviors in one or both of your triad partners. Love is always a risk whether monogamous or polyamorous.

Your open-minded approach is commendable, and I particularly think you should be commended for not pooh-poohing monogamy just because it is "the old thing" and thus supposedly "less evolved" or whatever. I am pretty sure that monogamy is the best thing for some people, polyamory the best for others, and in many cases a person could be satisfied going either way.

I hope Polyamory.com proves helpful to you, as a listening ear or whatever you'll need. It sounds like you're fixing to do a thread on another board (the Poly Relationships Corner perhaps); if you do, post a link in this thread leading to that new thread and I'll check it out.

Glad you could join us.
Kevin T., "official greeter"


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