Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > General Poly Discussions

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 10-16-2015, 06:34 PM
confusedtink confusedtink is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2015
Posts: 45
Default Hi

Hello. I finally stopped lurking. I've been reading around the forums for a few weeks now. I'm in my 30's and married for almost 10 years. I spoke to my husband recently about opening things up and today we really had a better conversation then the last one. This is the first time I haven't felt like I have a pit sitting inside my stomach. I don't know how all of this is going to work out, but I just mostly wanted to say thank you for all of what you have posted as it was of tremendous help.

Tink
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 10-16-2015, 06:40 PM
Evie Evie is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 408
Default

Hi Tink,

Welcome! I'm glad your conversation got you to a happier place.

Love your nickname too; I went to school with a Tink (actually Caroline), everyone called her that, including her parents.

All the best
Evie
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 10-16-2015, 06:58 PM
TheWind TheWind is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: NJ
Posts: 184
Default

Welcome, I know that feeling, we started on our first date talking about more than two of us
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 10-16-2015, 07:05 PM
AutumnLeaves AutumnLeaves is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2015
Location: Midwest USA
Posts: 670
Default

Wishing you guys good luck!
__________________
"I am a leaf on the wind, watch how I soar."

I have a blog over here, featuring:
Me (panromantic demisexual 30-something)
Guitarist (my husband, who very occasionally blogs here; boyfriend of Spice)
Flame (my long-distance lover thing)
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 10-16-2015, 07:06 PM
confusedtink confusedtink is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2015
Posts: 45
Default thanks

Thanks. It's not my actual name, but thought it would be cute. Kids like Tinkerbell.

I do have a question. Have any of you gone about expressing interest in someone in your daily life? Also how?

Tink
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 10-16-2015, 07:11 PM
TheWind TheWind is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: NJ
Posts: 184
Default

Yes yesterday... we talk about it regularly when we are not busy, wife is fussy though, she likes blondes with boobs, I have to like the person, their character, who they are
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 10-16-2015, 07:14 PM
confusedtink confusedtink is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2015
Posts: 45
Default sorry

Sorry. I should have been more clear. I meant how have you expressed to that person of your interest? My husband already knows.

Tink
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 10-16-2015, 07:17 PM
TheWind TheWind is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: NJ
Posts: 184
Default

Yes, shot down a few, had a gf try to break us up once. She had one, had a fantasy to seduce a guy, I said, go ahead, she did, finally had some wild truck sex and told him it was ok to see her... he bailed on her... sucked, could have been real good, we are both still friends with the guy, but no sex
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 10-16-2015, 11:56 PM
kdt26417's Avatar
kdt26417 kdt26417 is offline
Official Greeter
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Yelm, Washington
Posts: 14,781
Default

Hi Tink, welcome aboard.

Re (from confusedtink):
Quote:
"Have any of you gone about expressing interest in someone in your daily life? Also how?"
The few times I've ever expressed that to the person that interested me, I did it in a note (or an email).
__________________
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 10-17-2015, 04:58 PM
reflections's Avatar
reflections reflections is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 368
Default

I had been friends with Jack for many years before we were friends with benefits and now partners. We also flirted a lot as friends. When I brought up the idea of us being FWB, I texted him (we were/are long distance). Pretty much: "Hey, I want to see you again soon. Should I bring a 24 pack of condoms or 48? " I also let him know that Roger was okay with it. Needless to say, he took me up on the offer...
__________________
Me (Chrissy): Late 20's, female, bi/pansexual, poly, married to Roger (together for 14+ years) and dating Jack in a LDR (5+ years)
Roger: Early 30's, male, poly, married to Chrissy and dating Taylor in a LDR (1+ year)
Jack: Late 20's, male, currently mono, dating Chrissy
Taylor: Late 30's, female, currently mono, dating Roger
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 12:04 PM.