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Old 03-02-2014, 03:33 AM
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I have a malleable list of poly-friendly cities in the United States. Poly-friendly for purposes of this list is loosely defined as, a city with an unusually large percentage of poly inhabitants, and/or an unusually plentiful number of local poly organizations. From what I've seen/heard so far, the list is:
  • Los Angeles, California
  • San Francisco, California
  • Tampa, Florida
  • Boston, Massachusetts
  • Portland, Oregon
  • Austin, Texas
  • Seattle, Washington
So, can anyone speak for any of these cities, one way or another? Do they all belong on the list? Are there any additional cities I should add?

I've heard rumors about Columbus Ohio maybe belonging on the list. Is that true, or does that sound like just a rumor?

Also, while the list only covers the United States, I'd love to turn it into an international list. Can anyone testify about cities outside the U.S. that would also count as poly-friendly?

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P.S. My apologies if this subject has already been discussed in some earlier thread. Mods, perhaps merge this with that earlier thread if that's the case? I did do tag searches for "cities" and "poly cities," and had no luck as far as that was concerned.
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This is just my impression - I don't have actual 'data' - but Baltimore is a pretty happening place for polys. I'm not really active in DC poly circles but I get the sense that Washington, DC also has lots of poly folks.

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Oh wow, that's ironic -- the seat of the federal government, where they forbid poly marriages (and marriage-like arrangements), and that's where a bunch of poly people live ... Who knew?

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Seattle, Portland, San Fran and LA are all liberal/progressive so those make sense. Texas surprises me a bit but I haven't been there so it's just my impression. Again, just a guess but Vancouver BC wouldn't surprise me.
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Normally I would say Texas no, but
  • I know a surprising number of poly people from Austin,
  • I hear Austin is unusually liberal for being in Texas.
I suppose I'll add Vancouver, unless anyone else would say otherwise for that city?

Thanks for the input so for guys.
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Old 03-20-2014, 11:48 PM
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Kevin,

Asking from the perspective of a relatively new person to poly, what experiences/sources/data have led you to conclude that these are some of the biggest poly cities?

I am merely curious as to what information and experience (personal or anecdotal) that have led you to these conclusions.

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Normally I would say Texas no, but
  • I know a surprising number of poly people from Austin,
  • I hear Austin is unusually liberal for being in Texas.
I suppose I'll add Vancouver, unless anyone else would say otherwise for that city?

Thanks for the input so for guys.
I would have mentioned it earlier, but you said US only.

Vancouver and Victoria BC are two hot beds of polyamory. Not to mention its general acceptance due to the ability for canadians not to care what happens in the bedroom.

Boston would have been my other guess, having never been there, but seeing how the media is posting reasonably positive articles about the culture.

In my travels, Dallas I suppose would have a chance. Exceptionally welcoming city. Also non-monogamy seems to be the implied norm there, if I judge based on how many offers I receive everytime I visit for work.
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Yeah, I'm definitely interested in cities outside the United States; I just meant that the U.S. was what I had so far. Will add Victoria and Dallas. (If any have aught to say against Dallas, I could change that of course.) Good to hear a second vouch for Vancouver (and Boston).

I've been alphabetizing the cities by State, but I'm thinking alphabetizing by city name would make it easier to confirm whether this or that city was on the list.

@ Ryan3232 ... my info is anecdotal; I don't think formal studies have been done to analyze the poly percentages/activity in various cities. It's all word of mouth for now.

When I first started this thread, I was basically going on two bits of information. The first was the large number of poly people I was acquainted with who lived in Seattle, Austin, and Boston. Many of those people gave personal testimony as to the sizeable amount of poly activity and poly-friendliness in their city.

The second was a quote from The Polyamorous Misanthrope:
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"Where you do you live? Off the top of my head, if you live in Portland, San Francisco, Seattle, Boston, Los Angeles, or Tampa, you're in luck. All of these places have well-established polyamory communities, and I can vouch at least one or two of the people in each city are moderately sane and have been poly long enough to have grown a grain of sense."
-- Goddess of Java, http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.co...i-meet-people/
I should add that I have fielded this subject on another poly forum and have there heard the following:
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"Here in KC, I know a great many people who are poly, and most of them I didn't meet on any poly forum. I met them while doing other things. There is a largish Pagan population and a goodly number of Burners, both of which contribute to poly numbers."
-- i.am.tafl, http://polyamoryplus.com/smf/index.p....html#msg10627
Assuming that all that motley guesswork lines up with reality, I can proffer the following list:
  • Austin, Texas
  • Baltimore, Maryland
  • Boston, Massachusetts
  • Dallas, Texas
  • Kansas City, Kansas/Missouri
  • Los Angeles, California
  • Portland, Oregon
  • San Francisco, California
  • Seattle, Washington
  • Tampa, Florida
  • Vancouver, B.C.
  • Victoria, B.C.
  • Washington, D.C.
A list like this could become a BFD someday, after it's been thoroughly filled in and corrected. For now it's just a start.
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Haha, I knew that city was going to get mentioned.
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