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Old 05-05-2013, 11:49 PM
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For those who have followed our budding relationship in the introductions area this is a continuation as asked for by several here. If you have not followed and care to please feel free to do so and as always any comments and or advice is welcome.

Well another pretty good weekend is coming to a close....so far so good with everything. Wifes "second husband" came back home as planned on friday. I was working overnight that day due to a schedule change so they had the night together alone. Had dinner, cuddled on the couch with some nice flirt/play time and then up to bed where according to wife they had fantastic sex that night and slept together in our bed till morning. I got back mid morning just as he was going to spend time with his family, both had a nice smile and looked satisfied and happy . Wife and I had been invited to a party/ bbq event that afternoon and ended up staying the night there due to our policy of no drinking and driving. We had a nice private room and we truly enjoyed both the party seeing old friends we hadn't seen in a bit and the night together alone. Very good sex and cuddled up for the night after waking still cuddled up in the morning. Got back today and we are currently just chatting, enjoying the evening together with her cuddled up between us and flirting with both. Since he will be leaving for the week late tonight he is going to get a short nap and she will be joining him as it is the last time we will see him till next friday. I am sure she will come cuddle up to me after he leaves for work and we will have our week together again looking forward to next weekend.
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Old 05-07-2013, 04:19 PM
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All sounds very good and similar to our situation. My wifes boyfriend visit are usually 2 weeks at a time where they get lots of one on one time together in addition to all of us hanging out and having a good time. He and I get along great as well and comfortable with each other even when my wife is not around. Would love to hear more!
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Old 05-10-2013, 05:43 PM
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Well it's friday again, wife's "second husband" should be home at some point this evening for the weekend. We are both excited about him coming home and she says he is as well as they have been texting all week. Last weekend he was only able to spend time with him friday night while I was at work. Saturday we went to a party we had been planning on for a long time and sunday evening they normally spend time together however she was not feeling well and time with him kinda got pushed to the side. This week we decided he should get more time with her so tonight we will all be home but she will be spending the night with him to kinda "make up" what happened last weekend. Not sure what we are doing saturday evening but I am sure the 3 of us will go to dinner out and maybe some shopping or perhaps a stop at a club for some fun time...we will play it by ear and sleeping arrangements by ear as well but we know for sure about tonight. I will let everyone know how the weekend went at some point so stay tuned if your interested. We so far have no issues and both get along well with "our girl".
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Old 05-17-2013, 10:15 PM
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been a bit since I have added anything here. Lots has gone on over the last couple of weeks including our first ripple in the v. It has been 2 weeks since D and J have been together sexually for several reasons. D and I were away for 1 overnight out of town trip so that weekend didn't work out for them, the next one was a combo of things, he didn't get in from his job till very late that friday, saturday he had a bout of bad behavior so to speak going to his ex inlaws for a lake party and being to drunk to drive home (although give him and them kudos for not actually driving in that condition). Sunday brought a little rift....little but an evening ruiner that was resolved right away and that makes 2 weeks in a row since he is only home weekends.

This weekend should be a good one with her being in a good mood, forgiving the rift between them and him already being home for the weekend. D and I have talked and I am going to let them have the run of the house tonight for some alone time since I have had her all to myself for the last couple of weeks. She is out at her weekly girls evening then home to him and I will be out for the night so they can enjoy eachothers company. Will post again when I hear how things went and more about our weekend.....that is if there is anyone interested....if not maybe it's time I keep it to myself.....lol.
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Old 05-18-2013, 01:40 AM
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Will post again when I hear how things went and more about our weekend.....that is if there is anyone interested....if not maybe it's time I keep it to myself.....lol.
Please do! The blogs don't generally generate many comments as they are seen as the "poster's home" on the site. But we are reading/learning/sympathizing.

As the "hinge" in a MFM cohabitating Vee (ours is full-time) I love reading about how others manage/arrange things.

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Old 05-20-2013, 10:01 PM
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Well, the weekend came and went. Friday while I was out for the night so they could have alone time since they had not been together for almost 2 weeks. I was told j was there when she came home around 10 or a little after. She did some things around the house and they sat down to a nice pot of coffee, talking and enjoying each others company for about an hour. I had not seen him that day and she hadn't either so he did not know the plan for the weekend. She asked him if he would like to spend the night with her in our bed as we had talked and thought they needed some time to relax and enjoy eachother totally with no one around. He was very happy about the plan and they retired to our upstairs bedroom for the night. She said they kissed, had some nice foreplay and went on to make love for quite a while enjoying several positions and both having those good tension releasing orgasms......lol. They cuddled up and slept the night away peacefully with her waking in the morning for work and him giving her a nice kiss and telling her how much he enjoyed the night. I got back to our house mid morning having a bite to eat and some coffee. J came downstairs and could not be more happy. We have now decided all together that split time on the weekends for whole nights might be a better plan although we will see how it goes but it sure worked this last weekend as all were very happy and content. A question for all in a v relationship from us is how do you split time? both home and bedroom time and what works best for you?
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Old 05-21-2013, 12:13 AM
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I'm glad things went well from everyone's perpective - Happy, Happy, Joy!

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A question for all in a v relationship from us is how do you split time? both home and bedroom time and what works best for you?

This is going to greatly depend on the individual people involved and the levels of alone/couple/together time that each person wants/needs. I think the "love languages" come into play here as well. We all live together full-time and I am the only one who works outside the hose. They get their "friend" time while I am at work and we spend non-sexy evening times all together - doing things together or separately or with one but not both.

My relationship with MrS is much more built on sharing of values and ideas - we emotionally bond over intellectual conversation (sharing the "love language" of quality time). Dude is much more physical/emotive (love languages - "physical touch" and "words of affirmation") - so he gets most of the bedroom sexy times.

If one of us feels the need for alone time...or couple time...we just do that! There is not a planned schedule. (It probably helps that we are all pretty independent people with plenty of shared, and NOT shared, interests.)

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Old 05-29-2013, 04:56 PM
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Well it has been a while since last post. Things are still going pretty good here. J came home last weekend although he didn't get in till very early morning. D and J had planned on spending the night together friday's but last weekend just didn't work out for that really due to his work. I finally went to our bed and slept there as he didn't get home. She got up for her work on saturday morning to find him home and went to wake him for a coffee.....and you guessed it they ended up in bed naked.....lol. Both had a good time although cut a little short due to her having to go. I got up and was informed by j that he got in and she woke him for "coffee", that ended up being more but that it was good....not as good as a whole night but good.. We went through our day here, working outside around the house mowing and what not. J went to his daughters for a visit and got his son for the weekend, brought him back in the late evening saturday after spending the day with him. After his son went to our spare room to bed D and J and I were on the couch for a bit cuddleing and talking. Went to bed to our room and she went to spend some time with him cuddleing and making love. She and he both loved it and is sure sounded like they had a good time for a bit....lol. Sunday we had his daughter and kids out, our son was home, his son was here and we had a cookout and bon fire. He also had a friend here he knows for a while. Finally everyone went to bed with j and d going to his room for a while then d came back to our room. Was a nice way to spend the day and evening. Sunday brought breakfast, more outside work, cuddleing later in the evening and just enjoying eachothers company. I had to work monday d and I went to bed early for us and had some nice quality time together. She seems so happy with both of us here, very nice to see and they are now turly in a "love" relationship telling each other finally so I think we are good. They spent the day monday around the house, he took d and his son to breakfast then he was with his family for the rest of the day and left for work in the evening. They didn't get a chance to make love before he left but they are planning on spending friday night all night together as I am working late and will sleep somewhere so they can use our room that night. D and I are going on a mini vacation overnight saturday so I told her no rush, enjoy each other all night and if they feel like it again saturday morning as there is no rush for us to go and I have her the rest of the weekend so it's all good. Sometimes she worries about the time split but I like to give them as much time as I can cause he is only here weekends. I am pretty happy with the way things have played out so far, seeing her so happy and fulfilled is very nice and she is happy and in love so it's all good. He tells her he loves her as well when talking on the phone, texting and making love. Sometimes while cuddleing as well so I think we are good......more later on as things develop as long as people want to hear about it. Any suggestions or comments are welcome as well.
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Old 06-04-2013, 05:36 PM
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Well, May is here and we are getting deeper into our poly relationship. J seems to have some judgement problems about other woman that somtimes bothers D because he will be on his damn i phone looking but says there is nothing to worry about as the one he chats with is just a friend and nothing is happening or going to happen. J has brought up the whole boy toy thing to her and she assures him he is much more than a boy toy to her. They now regularly tell each other they love each other and according to her the sex is fantastic!! We have decided that friday nights will be "their time" together every week as long as he gets in on time from his work so they now spend friday nights together all night normally in our bed. This week he got in around 730, showered and changed with them ending up on the couch talking about what to do. He wanted to take her on a dinner date but when she asked what he wanted he laughed and said....sex of course, she said before or after dinner and he laughed and said yes......classic line that she loved hearing so they went upstairs and spent some quality time together although not long enough for her....but then again he had been gone all week, this was before going on their date. They then went to a nice steak house here near us. Had a nice dinner curled up together in a booth and enjoyed eachothers company over dinner, doing some quick shopping before coming home. By the time they got back it was getting late so they retired back to our room and had what she says was fantastic sex for an hour before drifting off to sleep cuddled up naked together. She told me the session was the best yet with the positions and intenseity. They slept in a bit in the morning still curled up in eachothers arms getting up to make coffee and get some breakfast. I had purposely worked late the night shift so they could have that intimate time together they seem to lack sometimes and went to the gym in the morning so as to be sure not to disturb them. By the time I got home he had gone to get his son for the day out. She had a huge smile on her face and thanked me over and over for giving them that time. D and I had planned on being gone over night saturday to a casino/concert and had a great time together with great lovemaking after and again in the morning. She seems so happy to have 2 men that love her although she does say she knows I love her more and she feels the same towards me. She does say that she hopes this all works out for a future together and they are going to talk about a more permanent relationship in the near future. I was not feeling well sunday night and had to also get up early for work so I went to bed early, J was also in bed as he leaves late or early for his week away at work. She joined me and curled up thanking me for the weekend we had as we drifted off to sleep together. She woke me a couple of hours later and asked how I was feeling, also asking if it was ok to go give J a nice send off for the week. I told her it was up to her since he is her "second husband". She smiled and got up going to his room for a while. She was back in our bed when I got up to go to work in the morning looking very satisfied and happy. She sent me an e mail when she got up again thanking me for our new life and said they had a nice time and that she would see me when I got home. Over all I would say it was a sucessful weekend....everyone seems happy and satisfied and J seems to be going with our routine quite well. More coming as things develop......
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Old 06-05-2013, 10:48 AM
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i enjoy reading your blog. One ask can you split things up a bit so they are easier to read.
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