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Old 02-07-2014, 02:28 PM
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Right now my Facebook status is set as "Married to Bluebird's husband." Lately we have been discussing switching that to say "In an Open Relationship."

My question is, if I do this, is there an option to list my other partner? Or will it still just allow me to say "In an Open Relationship with Bluebird's husband"? If so, is there a way that I can list both my husband and my boyfriend? Right now my boyfriend is just "In a Relationship" but I am not listed because Facebook won't let him add me, since I am married. :/
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Old 02-07-2014, 03:34 PM
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As far as I know you can only link to one partner on Facebook. They got rid of the other option in June.
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Old 02-07-2014, 03:45 PM
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That sucks.
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:15 PM
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http://www.wikihow.com/Add-Relatives-on-Facebook

You can add family members. Not sure if you can leave the family member option blank, but it may be an option..
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:20 PM
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You can list whomever you want on your family list. BUT you can not link your page to two significant other
I can not list both Butch and Murf as my husband you can not list a husband and a boyfriend at the same time either.

I have tried...
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:25 PM
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You can list whomever you want on your family list. BUT you can not link your page to two significant other
I can not list both Butch and Murf as my husband you can not list a husband and a boyfriend at the same time either.

I have tried...
Can you just leave it blank?

I wasn't expecting to be able to put multiple wives (in my case) but I seem to remember people listing "in relationship" or something similar, leaving the second field blank
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Old 02-07-2014, 07:30 PM
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You do not have to define who the people in your family list are to you.

For example my boss is on mine. He is like family to me. We have been friends 20 + yrs

But what I think bluebird want is for her profile to say married to D and in a relationship with boyfriend. You can only have one SO's profile linked to yours. Or just not list either.
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Old 02-07-2014, 08:03 PM
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You can write 'In a relationship with' and then add them to your friends list AS 'husband' and 'boyfriend' or both 'partners' or both 'husbands' but you simply can't in your relationship status.
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Old 02-07-2014, 08:19 PM
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Yeah, I was looking to add them both in the "In a Relationship with" section.

I took a look at the place where you can define people as "Family" in a list. There isn't a "boyfriend" option, but maybe that is because I have a defined "husband" already? I also don't see a "partner" option.

Thanks for the help.
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Old 02-07-2014, 08:31 PM
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Yeah, I was looking to add them both in the "In a Relationship with" section.

I took a look at the place where you can define people as "Family" in a list. There isn't a "boyfriend" option, but maybe that is because I have a defined "husband" already? I also don't see a "partner" option.

Thanks for the help.
Partner was definitely there because I used it. I just went back to check and it looks like they removed the option.

And they also removed the marital ones from there, since I know a man who had two women listed as 'Wife' that way, I realise now that Facebook has purposely removed that option for Poly people. Bastards!
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