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Old 01-29-2014, 01:20 AM
Mackmisty Mackmisty is offline
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You are correct. It wouldn't be obvious to most on here. If you had known the whole story, that would've been more appropriate, but you don't...so, it wasn't. I apologize for that. As for his knowledge about her and us is nearly nothing. Currently our relationship with her, is an affair. He would go nuts, and knows we talk to her again and see her on occasion, but does everything he can to intimidate her or manipulate the situation to make it that much harder for her to talk to or see us. He thinks we are just friends, because that's what she insists on. He has his suspicions, but nothing concrete. We are quite unsure how to proceed.
Sounds like your GF can't make up her mind between you 2 and her husband. If the husband is completely in the dark, but has suspicions enough to behave with intimidation, then all could blow up quite negatively. Might be best to stay away until she breaks from the husband altogether. Then you can welcome her with open arms.
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Old 02-02-2014, 05:18 PM
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sounds like your gf can't make up her mind between you 2 and her husband. If the husband is completely in the dark, but has suspicions enough to behave with intimidation, then all could blow up quite negatively. Might be best to stay away until she breaks from the husband altogether. Then you can welcome her with open arms.
Good luck....
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Old 02-03-2014, 04:08 AM
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You can have both families spend lots of time together. My husband holds hands with our GF in front of all the kids. At first they cocked an eyebrow, but got used to it over time. Her kids are 9 and 14. Now, hugs, holding hands, evening walks mean nothing to the kids, it's now a normal thing. We are just conservative about more intimate contact for now, until the kids are older. We too are cautious. We are taking our time. We plan to stay together for life. So far so good. Good luck.
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