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Old 01-02-2014, 12:52 PM
LoveBunny LoveBunny is offline
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I've found that men rarely pay any attention to my wedding ring. They assume if I'm flirting with them, I'm available. One guy, even after I Facebook friended him where my status clearly says "married," still assumed I was separated, as I was so obviously flirting with him.

I have learned to say as soon as I know I'm interested: "I'm married, but that doesn't mean I don't want to get to know you. My husband and I have an understanding."

I've had little trouble finding people (especially men) willing to have a sexual relationship with a married woman. Finding people willing to forge an emotional connection as well has been more difficult. If you have a polyamorous community where you live, you might have better luck finding people willing to form emotional as well as sexual connections.
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Old 01-02-2014, 01:18 PM
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Dagferi Dagferi is offline
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If the conversation/flirting comes to would you like to do xyz with me. I would then say to the man. I would love to do xyz with you but just so you know I am married but I have an open relationship. Then we would have the polyamory talk. I am blunt and to the point.

For example met Murf while out with friends out at classic car cruises and events locally . I am in the classic car scene Butch is not. One of the stops is at a local diner Murf asked me out over dinner on our third meeting. We that night had a talk about poly and how I ran my relationships. After mulling things over he decided he wanted me in his life. 2 years later we get stronger day by day.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.
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