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Old 07-29-2012, 01:36 AM
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Default We Are Pregnant!

We are having another baby!

Both of us are excited, but D is apprehensive, he's out of town for a month, so he has plenty of time to think about if he wants to date a pregnant woman.

If it doesn't work, then it doesn't work, but I hope he can deal with me being pregnant.

In other news...

John has a date tonight!
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Old 07-29-2012, 01:55 AM
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Congratulations! Good news

Understandable that D may have reservations about this, that is a huge step. Hope everyone is able to enter this new situation with a throughout comfortable attitude in the end.
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Old 07-29-2012, 02:05 AM
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Congratulations!!
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Old 08-20-2012, 05:31 PM
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D decided he'd rather not, I understand, and I'm not to upset about it.

In other news R has been seeing another girl for about a year and she says she's pregnant. Although she could be, the odds are stacked against her. She has Ovid, which makes it hard to get pregnant, and she just happened to find out the day she had set as an ultimatum for him to choose her or his girlfriend. I won't believe it until she shows, but I have a feeling she us lying and will have a miscarriage before that, actually, before her first appointment, since R is suppose to go with her. If she is actually pregnant is a nitrile that everything lined up how and when it did


As his best friend, I'm being supportive, but add his former lover, I'm hurt by the whole thing
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Old 11-27-2012, 06:08 AM
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Default Ah, so my future is crushed

I've always held out hope that R and I would be together in the long run, but he has a new baby boy on the way, so it seems that will never happen. I'm working on that with my therapist.

In other news, we are also having a boy!

And in other other news... Jen has a new boyfriend. Who has no issue with my being pregnant what so ever. We met before I was preggers and things have developed slowly. John likes him, and they seem to get along. We will dub him V.

V takes me nice places and buys me things, which I love, and he's also there for me and shows concern and empathy. I'm not in love, but I can see it going there. Hes very lovable.
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Old 11-27-2012, 11:21 AM
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Just had a wonderful evening with V. I work until 1 am, but I got off early so he could come over. John is at work, so we had the house to ourselves, though I'm a little hypo-manic, so I was running around the house doing chores, he'd stop me for kisses - which I LOVE.

His kisses make me melt. I know its NRE, but its so nice. I'm not a big kisser either. I love the way he rubs my belly and loves the fact that I am pregnant. He sees me as beautiful.

I want to talk to John about us coming out of the poly closet to a few people bc lot of our friends know V and I feel that the fact that we are dating will come out eventually. Someone will see us somewhere in all our googy eyed new relationship glory. And when we do eventually hang with those friends that know us both I dont want to have to hide our relationship.

V and I are going to spend all day Friday together. We try to have a day a week. John will be sleeping/ at work most of the day, so its a good time. John and I will have all thursday together. I'm off thursdays and fridays.
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Old 11-27-2012, 04:27 PM
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Default Just processing

I'm a jumble of emotions right now and I need to put it down where I can look at it later and sort it out.

I have no idea where to start.

I'm mourning the loss of a possible future with R. I guess I always knew it was a long shot, but now that I know it will never happen, I'm sad about it.
I'm hoping that time will heal those wounds and allow us to be continue to be close friends, but part of me thinks or maybe knows things will never be the same again.

I think I'm falling for V, but Im scared. I dont want to be burned like I was with F and T. I allowed myself to love them too early and it came back to bite me. John pointed out that V and I have actually gone slowly, and the first month of our official relationship was only txt and phone calls because I was back home visiting. You get to know a person well when there is no physical to get in the way, he pointed out. I think he's right, but I'm not sure how to approach the subject of how I feel to V. John thinks I should be blunt, which is how I got V to begin with, but I know that it really caught him off guard and I'm not sure how he felt about it. I knew he wanted to be with me though, so it was easier. I guess I'm afraid that he's not to the same point I am. Not that I expect or even want him to be, just I'm afraid that I'll scare him away. I dont want him to feel like I'm putting him on the spot and I'm not sure how to address that with him.
- another thing for the main boards I think.
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Old 11-27-2012, 08:28 PM
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Default and V opens up, a little

I wrote V, to tell him how I feel without that magical L word.

He wrote back, and it was so sweet I cried. He admitted to being mistrusting and having a hard emotional shell and that he wanted to open up to me and love me.

He asked that I not keep my feelings from him, so between now and Friday, I will figure out how to tell him exactly how I feel without pushing him or pressuring him.
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Old 12-01-2012, 07:17 AM
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Default Moving right along

V and I had a real discussion about where our relationship is going and the level we want it to be in the future... and we both agreed that the kids are the only thing holding us back. That came out a little wrong... Respect for the children's feelings mean we arent going to jump into a super serious thing, but let it progress and the kids decide how much they are involved in this. His kids are all old enough to understand "dad has a girlfriend who is pregnant by another man whom she is married to" and they have all met me. Its his youngest we are most concerned with. She seems to like me, so I've invited HER over to play rock band, a video game we both enjoy, when shes ready.

My kids are younger than her, but she's not a teen yet, so its an awkward age for me to deal with. Maybe I'll go to the main boards for some insight.

In other news, V said he loves me! I'm happy about it but I'm not ready to say it back, not after my relationship with F and T and how I said it too fast and got seriously burned, but at the same time I know I'm in a place emotionally that if things were to end with V I'd be hurt by it. Its been two months officially together, and I know I have feelings for him, I'm just not sure if I love him and I'm too afraid to admit it to myself or if I'm not quite there yet.
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Old 12-03-2012, 07:17 AM
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Va nd I had a talk about ultimate goals for our relationship and we are on agreeable footing. He never wants to be more than a secondary to me, so that leaves me free to look for the primary I want, without hindering or interfering with our relationship.
I love that we can talk so openly and honestly about this kind of thing with each other.

I'm not eagerly pursuing looking for the primary I want, but I'm not closing myself off to possibilities either.
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