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Old 11-30-2013, 06:07 PM
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I don't know how to draw the shapes.

Currently we are a V.
But we used to be a V with one end dot having another extension to another dot..
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Old 11-30-2013, 09:39 PM
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I think once you add in what is considered the extended post family by KB it's a tangle.

The family is an extended w. Woodsmith to me to SB to KB to NT to SP. The tangle add on: KB and NT are dating a girl L (fully separately, not set up as a triad), L is dating a couple Umbra and Pet, Pet is dating a guy domo.
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Old 11-30-2013, 11:42 PM
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Of course-if I included non-sexual partner types.... I think we would end up with a low-lying shrug.
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Old 12-01-2013, 04:02 AM
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Woodsmith to me to SB to KB to NT to SP. The tangle add on: KB and NT are dating a girl L (fully separately, not set up as a triad), L is dating a couple Umbra and Pet, Pet is dating a guy domo.


Close? I'm not sure how to indicate that the KB/L/NT section are all separate relationships without cloning L.
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Old 12-01-2013, 05:03 AM
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Close? I'm not sure how to indicate that the KB/L/NT section are all separate relationships without cloning L.
That is perfect. And it looks like less of a mess that way.
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Old 12-01-2013, 05:16 AM
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Never seen anyone here say a particular configuration like a triad or quad or whatever is the true way to do poly.
You see a lot of new people who seem to think it's only poly if both halves of a couple are seeing other people at the same time, or it's only poly if everyone is involved with each of the others, or it's only poly if everyone lives together, or it's only poly if it's poly-fi, etc, so therefore their relationship—whatever it may be and however many other definitions of poly it may meet—isn't really poly.

Two recent examples are not really poly, not really mono either and Not mono but not poly, what is my poly identity? How do I "label" my relationship?

Both describe standard poly or mono/poly relationships, but because they've previously heard poly used only to describe a different configuration they don't think the label applies to them. I have no problem at all with people choosing not to label themselves poly if they don't think it fits, but in both of these cases they seem to want it to fit, it's just that the constrained definitions they're familiar with don't allow it.

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Can we have just one blinkin thread about configurations that is not centred around bloody Unicorns and their hunters?
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Old 12-01-2013, 05:33 AM
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a low-lying shrug
*developing a low-lying shrub is my relationship goal from now on!* Plus I can throw in Monty Python references...
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These two must have superhuman scheduling abilities. That's all I have to say about that.
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Old 12-01-2013, 06:15 AM
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My configuration is a W with an extra arm... \/\/\

Gralson, me, Auto, her hubby, his boyfriend, and his wife (with each pronoun referring to the previous person). AFAIK, my girlfriend's husband's boyfriend's wife doesn't have another partner, but I don't keep tabs.

Some cultures have very rich vocabularies for familial relationships, e.g. the brother of your mother has a different title than the brother of your father or the husband of your mother's sister, etc. It would be interesting to live in a culture that had something similar for poly relationships.
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Old 12-01-2013, 07:45 AM
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I don't think those threads pointed to anyone saying a particular configuration is the true way. For example, the mono/poly thread was someone monogamous wondering if her being monogamous means that she couldn't be in a poly relationship. It wasn't her saying we have a closed triad and that's real poly. Same with the other one, really.

And I've changed my mind, my ideal configuration would be like SCs.
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