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Old 02-10-2011, 10:01 AM
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Default "Stop me if you've heard this one" - clichés we've heard from non-polys

Stereotypes, clichés, put-downs, prejudices

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You are invited to submit the sort of anti-Polyamory comments you've heard or read. You may also submit your own replies to same. I'll start with 2 examples:
"You're just too immature to handle a REAL relationship!"
My heart's just too big to be limited to petty, stingy love.
"If you spread your love too widely, it's never deep anywhere."
If you take a thimbleful, or a litre... or a square kilometre of water from the ocean, is the ocean noticeably shallower?
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Old 02-10-2011, 10:58 AM
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Welcome, welcome welcome! Thanks for the best intro I think I've ever read on this board and then straight into a link to a really good thread! I am thoroughly impressed.

We've been told "you're just not that into each other"

and

"He obviously does make your heart sing and your soul soar"

to which I say "Garbage" (just for Redpepper)
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Old 02-10-2011, 11:11 AM
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"If you truly loved someone, they would be enough and you wouldn't even look at another person."

I call BS...lol
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Old 02-10-2011, 11:38 AM
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"You just haven't met the right person yet who can fulfill all your needs."

My reply is that I don't want someone to fulfill my needs, as only I can do it.

But sometimes I only reply: Yeah, maybe.
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Old 02-10-2011, 06:30 PM
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"If you were really happy with your wife you wouldn't be wanting to go poly." This from a poly person too, go figure...
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Old 02-11-2011, 10:00 AM
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"You need to grow up and realize you're married" - Mr. Panda, about 5 minutes before I decided to stop talking to him.
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Old 02-11-2011, 06:14 PM
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There must have been something wrong with or missing in your marriage if a) you decided to try swinging and b) 2rings fell so hard for someone else.

Of course - neither was true but try telling that to people.
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Old 02-11-2011, 06:39 PM
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Cool fun topic

"You're just greedy and oversexed!"
My reply: We're gay men...if all you want is just more sex, it's easier if you stay single!

"I can't even get one man let alone two!"
My reply: Sounds like your problem, not mine.

"This isn't some kinda kinky Mormon thing is it?!?"
My reply: "MOTHER PLEASE!"


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Old 02-11-2011, 11:55 PM
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Quote:
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"I can't even get one man let alone two!"
My reply: Sounds like your problem, not mine.
I love this response!
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Old 02-12-2011, 06:55 AM
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"If you truly loved someone, they would be enough and you wouldn't even look at another person."

I call BS...lol
Even before I started down the road to poly, I'd get this kind of thing for looking...and yeah, I looked...my response was always the same...
"I'm married...NOT dead!"
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