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Old 02-26-2012, 12:09 AM
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Hi I am Des a 34 year old married woman in a semi open relationship who is looking to meet and talk to people with similar lifestyles. I call it semi open because I am not quite sure how else to explain our rather complicated relationship. We have been together for more then 7 years and have gone through ups and downs. Semi because most open relationships are often only based on sex which is not the case for us on the other hand I am not quite sure we would b up to a actual mutual living arrangement.
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Old 03-05-2012, 04:34 PM
Polywaw Polywaw is offline
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Hi. For now I'll leave us at Him and Her, we're a couple, and this is being handled by the Him end of it.

We're young, 23-24, we've been married since 2007, and date 2-3 years before that. Early in our relationship, which began in high school of course, my now-wife decided that she was indeed bi. While at college together, she's explored an extra-marital relationship (with all my blessing and more!). That relationship sort of went poly-triad for awhile but our third went her own way. (Still talk often, but she didn't feel the same as we did is all). We've dabbled since then, meeting a few that started to go somewhere but fizzled out. Currently, we're very open to the idea of a third member, and we sought her out for a long time. however, at this point, I'm not so sure we'll find her. (Reading the success stories on this website made me feel great, it's why I originally joined).

We're in the 5'-6"-8" range. She's gorgeous, slim, very athletic. He's comically short, good looking but scruffy, and very athletic. We study martial arts together and have traveled because of this. She studies dance (belly dance most of all). We're major dorks, doing a dorky things such as reading comics, watching Star Wars, reading fantasy novels, and playing a tabletop RP game online. He is very outgoing, she is shy but gradually becoming outgoing.

We're prepared to move on to our graduate degree and that's the next big step in our life, and because of that, will probably leave Michigan.

We've a vibrant and enjoyable sex life. We've never had a martial problem we can't deal with. I feel we're a very solid and serious couple that laughs a lot. Because of this, I think, we can be intimidating to potential thirds... can they fit into what we have? The answer to that is where there is love, things grow and change. Her dreams became my dreams and vice versa.

That's a lot! I figure why not get some of it out front? Feel free to PM if anything catches your eye, whether you're interested in us or just want to know more about our experience, or penpals, etc.
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Old 03-12-2012, 06:49 PM
NatureGirl NatureGirl is offline
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Cool ~~What's up ya'll? This is about me~~

Hi Everyone! I am really grateful to find a place where I can talk about the relationship I am having and how to make certain decisions and things, when I can't talk to my mom or my sister this time

I am Chrissy A 38 year old single mom. I just 4 months ago ended a really intense monogamous relationship - it ended when I discovered my best friend and the love of my life was in possession of child porn - lots of it - I took it all to the police.... And with that - I have realized I am lonely, and that now I don't trust so well. So I found a couple that I like and I am pretty much becoming their girlfriend...and I really like the attention, and the affection... And they have been together for 5 years, they are stable...and fun So I am going for it. Because it feels like a good way for me to get out of my life and have fun in someone else's life and then come back home to my kids - see I don't have to risk letting someone into my family this way... feels better for the time being. I think in my future i will want a monogamous relationship...maybe...but right now I want to be loved and adored and then go back to my kids and etc... It's mutual adoration, by the way - not a selfish lover

So anyway - I am a very spiritual person, I practice Science of Mind and I love - just in general. I am an artist and I really love people and animals and kids and nature and just really everything that was intended to exist

Enough of all that and hi is what I mean!!!

smiles! chrissy
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Old 03-13-2012, 05:45 AM
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Hi Crissy
I can imagine the shock, the hurt and other sad feelings u might have gone thro' when u found about ur partner. I appreciate ur courage to expose him to the authorities.
It is really heartening to learn that u have recovered within 4 months and been able to establish a new relationship, (that too when u mention in ur note that u dont trust so well). As the saying goes, once beaten, twice shy, u have carefully gone thro' their background (might be u have known these couple known them earlier). U shouldnt be just taking them on the rebound to fill in vaccume. I hope everything works out the way u want them to be. Good luck
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Old 03-13-2012, 07:13 PM
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Hmmm.... you raise some good points. No I did not check them out. Background check? How does one even do that? Wow for someone who has trust issues I am being pretty trusting lol. The truth is...I feel ok about them...but I don't really trust my own judgement...lol

Yeah it's not a nice place to be - so much doubt
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Old 03-14-2012, 01:34 AM
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Hi, I'm Pixie, I'm 39 and live in Florida. I have been married and divorced cause the other party cheated on me with my ex-best friend. It wasn't the cheating on me part that caused the divorce; it was the lying about it when I knew what was going on. You could say I have a trust issue or five.

I am bisexual, but I will put it to you like this: I love my meat and potatoes, but every now and then I like some sweet desert. I am currently, nor have I been for the past several years, in any kind of relationship. At some point, I just got bored with all the BS and decided that I could take care of myself at home and not have to wear hip-waders to get to the door. Or the forced conversations or the sharing of my space.

I am also a very alpha female. That is not to say that I am butch or any other vowels you want to replace that 'u' with, I just know what I like and I know when I am hearing a line. I prefer honest communication to listening to someone try to fill what could potentially be comfortable silence.

I have definite voyeuristic tendencies, especially when it comes to watching two men. A friend once told me that I was a gay man trapped in a woman's body.

One of the main reasons that I gave up on monogamy is because I am a true believer that we were not meant to love only one person, that we were truly made with hearts as big as we want or need them to be. The relationship that I decided I would wait for is that of a perfect triad, with two men as into each other as they are into me. Yeah, I know, so I can watch!

I joined this forum group because I have read a lot of material and spoken to a lot of poly people in my life, and most of the articles and friends all spoke of a one at a time, sort of swap between agreed friends that is mostly hetero, with some bisexuality with women involved. I have yet to read much about what I am looking for, and I really am wondering if I am alone in my quest.

Are there other relationships like what I want out there? And if so, how does one go about learning more?
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Old 03-23-2012, 02:28 PM
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Hi! My name is just Smoore for now. I recently just discovered Polyamory while searching the web trying to find out what was wrong with me. Wow! nothing is wrong with me. I was so relived. but then I had to tell my Husband of nearly 12 years. I was more than a little nervous.You see I had fallen in love with an old friend and was wanting to share this with my husband but I did not want to hurt him either. Well, it took nearly 2 weeks for me to come all the way out to him. but we are good now. he is awesome. So, I am married now with children and then I have a great bf who is also married with one child.
My husband is still figuring this out for himself at his own pace. I was not looking for a bf when this all happen and I was not looking for just a hook up either.nor would I ever but I think I am happier than I have ever been now. My only wish is that I could share my happiness with everyone I want to scream to the world how much I love my bf and he me but we live in a very judgmental area and I fear that. so that is why I am here.
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Old 03-31-2012, 07:44 PM
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I'm Lotus, a professional in her mid-20's, and a solo poly lady. I'm not seeing anyone right now since I work a lot and am working on another degree so I can move up in my career. The first thing people usually notice about me is my crazy short and sassy dark pixie cut, and the second thing people notice is I'm well-spoken. I love public speaking, and my career goal is to be a professor in my field. Instructing is so much fun and so rewarding.

I love intellectual junk like medicine, opera, and literature. I also love fashion, tabloids, and have been fascinated with plastic surgery and drag since childhood. I'm somewhat of a girly girl: I love make-up and jewelry, but I also enjoy my andro good looks, being fit, and hiking. Like Pixie, I would definitely classify myself as an alpha female.

As far as partners, I like all kinds: Hypermasculine, butch, effeminate, femme, petite, tall, curvy, muscular. All kinds of people give me room to explore myself. Unfortunately, exploring myself is not so much an option as I work in a small community and am very busy, but I do find a little time to date and am looking forward to making new friends as my schedule lightens up and I meet more kindred spirits.
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Old 04-05-2012, 06:37 PM
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Hi all, my name is Chris, and (braces for incoming flak) I'm 16.
I know, i know, this isn't something i should be thinking about, I'm too young, whatever. All i know is that the first time i read about poly, it struck a chord with me. It just felt right, y'know? And i know, people are probably thinking im too young to be making a decision about my life. Ive generally been miserable in 1 on 1 relationships, because i haven't felt like they satisfy my emotional needs. I have an issue relating to my partners because i have trouble viewing someone sexually before i know them quite well. I'm looking for general, all around advice. Im interested in poly, it feels right to me, i dont really have anyone i can discuss it with, my parents being strict Roman Catholic, and dead-set against any violation of the "Marriage Norm".
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Old 04-06-2012, 01:09 AM
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Welcome Chris - and I firmly believe that you are NOT too young to be thinking about things like this. If I had had a resource like this around when I was 16 I could have saved myself a whole heap of frustration and anguish and could have got to a much happier place in my life a LOT quicker.

So welcome!

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