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Old 11-18-2013, 07:49 AM
Inyourendo Inyourendo is offline
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I tried dating someone 10 years younger than me. I ain't think I ever met someone who bragged about being mature so much in my life lol
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Old 11-18-2013, 04:14 PM
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I'm glad this post is up here. I started dating a guy who is 22 and I will be 30 next month. Most of the time it doesn't seem to be a big deal but the lack of communication can be so aggravating, but he has gotten better. Sometimes I feel too old for him and that he doesn't really understand what I want from this relationship but we always manage to discuss things through. Just glad to know I'm not alone. lol
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Old 11-19-2013, 01:42 AM
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KW and I talked & both agreed that at this time both of us have a lot going on. We'll see each other occasionally. I actually feel better about this direction. We'll still see each other just more casually. With that said another I've chatted with frequently in the last 3 months made plans to meet this Thursday. He's 32 and much better at communicating.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:46 AM
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Glad you and your young beau were able to get it sorted.
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Old 11-20-2013, 06:00 PM
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I had a young playpartner for 2 years. He was almost 21 when we met, to my 54. We had great physical chemistry and I found him charming, funny and relaxing to be around. I was just starting out dating again so I agreed to a NSA arrangement, although I grew so fond of him, I would have liked more of an immersion in each others' lives. However, that did not work for him as he was busy with school, then job hunting, then a demanding new job and didnt have time for a "real gf."

He would only get together with me when he wanted to. He'd text me when he was free and I'd work him in. I always had to be a spontaneous as possible. He didn't do long term plans. But we always had so much fun when we were together, I just rolled with it. I had a serious partner as well this whole time.

One day, he just stopped texting me. I didn't hear from him in 18 months. I finally tried texting him, but it seemed his number no longer worked.

Later, he told me he has the emotional intelligence of a gnat. He had quit his job, moved north, grew a beard and spent time finding himself. Then he found a real gf, moved in with her, but already wasn't that satisfied with the relationship... not happy, but afraid to break up.

Oh well, I guess the moral of my story is, enjoy the youngsters for what they bring, fun and enthusiasm and energy and horniness, but don't expect them to be fully supportive or dependable!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 62)
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My bf Kahlo (poly-friendly, M, 45) since August 2017
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Old 11-21-2013, 12:43 AM
Norwegianpoly Norwegianpoly is offline
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Originally Posted by PolyinPractice View Post
...there is a world of difference between 22 and 26.... There is a ton of self awareness that happens somewhere around 25....
I guess you are right. I felt myself so much more mature at that time
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