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Old 07-18-2013, 01:03 PM
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Old 08-05-2013, 05:45 AM
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Reeling from the shock of reading on fb that a friend in the poly community unexpectedly passed away today.
This person was such an inspiration to me, always had a kind word, reassurance and encouragement along my path of self exploration and growth.
Not really anything I can say or do. It is what it is.
But it was an unexpected and unhappy surprise to read when I got "home" tthis evening.
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Old 08-05-2013, 11:37 AM
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I'm in shock and disbelief. What a wonderful person to of lost. What happened? Do you know? We are going to poly camp this month and I was looking forward to seeing her. sad. Very sad.
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Old 08-06-2013, 01:06 AM
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All I saw was that she was rushed to the ER for a "freak medical emergency" (those were the exact words) and rushed into surgery-and didn't make it.

They have since said that she didn't suffer. But that's all.
There are people on the polyinthenorthwest page that can share more details via pm. I didn't ask. I just didn't feel like I needed more info in my mind. That was already painful enough. You know?

Anneintherain-on here, was a metamour-and has asked on the "how are you doing" thread-for suggestions on helping support her partner who is struggling with this loss. So if you have suggestions-you might send them her way.
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Old 08-06-2013, 11:09 PM
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Feeling thankful.

I was reading through the many posts on fb-people grieving the loss of our friend.
So many were about "rethinking" their lives, realizing that they needed to reorder their priorities and make time for the people in their lives because we could lose someone with no notice at any point.
This is true.

But-what struck me is-I don't have anything significant to change on that front.

I considered the friend who is now gone, and with a smile recalled her last posts on Friday and my reply. A couple of weeks ago she had posted she was sad and I had responded with happy thoughts and that had been a common thing between us.

My kids see me almost all day every day. I prioritize being involved in their lives. My beloveds know I rearrange my life regularly to be sure we have time together. My friends get texts and fb posts and I pop in to see them at work or wherever as I run through my errands and life responsibilities.

So, I am thankful today that at some point along the line, I learned that lesson-before losing someone I would have to regret I didn't say what I really felt before they were gone.
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Old 08-13-2013, 03:25 AM
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Home Sweet Home.
Came home from Kodiak.
GG had cleaned the house (including scrubbing my shower) and was making dinner for us. It was very sweet.
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Old 08-20-2013, 06:05 AM
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Since I vented my frustrations over topics that have been arising in a few groups I'm in lately-I probably better post an update.

No drama on the home front. Actually-it's been long enough that the "waiting for the other shoe two drop" sensation has finally passed too. That's awesome. Just chilling (in terms of relationships). Definitely not chilling in terms of busy-ness!

Between grandchildren visiting, road trips with the 13 year old for school stuff, visits to Kodiak to see Maca, home improvement work, a HUGE garden project, school planning (SO STOKED I got to help re-design the statistics for psychology course!) etc-
I've been running and running and running!

I bought a new motorcycle 3 weeks ago. In a week it will be home. So this week I've been studying up so I can go take my permit test (I had it once before but we sold the bike we had before I got to take my drivers test and then the permit expired).
I am SO looking forward to taking my drivers test so I am FREE on the bike.
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Old 08-22-2013, 06:22 PM
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This guy shows his priority is his son ALL OF THE TIME.
But this post caught my heart strings today.

http://www.danoah.com/2013/08/broken...king-up.html/3
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Awesome long weekend. I headed out with the kids Friday morning for our last "Alaska Studies trip" this summer. We had about 300 miles to go. We arrived safely with many photos and lots of new info.
The guys arrived shortly thereafter and we set up camp. We met some friends there who also home school.
Saturday was spent fishing as was Sunday and Monday.
I caught 3 silvers Monday. First time ever!
Monday evening Maca headed home (had to work Tuesday).
GG and I stayed another night with the kids and came home today.
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Old 09-17-2013, 07:04 AM
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Doing great.

Happy to be back in school.

I love my Social Psychology class.
The Abnormal Psychology class-bleh. Tolerably dull.
TA'ing for Stats-a blast!

Starting to identify people in my classes that I have seen in other places on campus-which is kind of cool.

Hunting camp was a bust for getting a moose. But Sweet Pea took out 3 ptarmigan and made a nice dinner the last night. Little P had a BLAST and SourPea LOVED her daddy time.

Tomorrow Maca heads back out to Kodiak.
Will be crazy busy around here.

GG was informed by his boss that he needs to decide his priority. Funny, I agree. In fact, I've said the same. At any rate, its become OBVIOUS to him that he needs to find a different job. This one expects him to drop everything at the drop of a hat-including the kids and that isn't acceptable. He's facing the reality that a career that requires he put the kids second-isn't going to work out. He isn't happy about it-he likes the work.
But-kids are only kids for a small amount of time. If you aren't there to make the best of it, you lose it.

Maca had to face that one years ago. He was so hurt when Sweet Pea didn't come running to him for things (age 5). It was a slap in the face to realize that while HE may have thought that going to work was taking care of the family, the kids just see it as leaving.
Yes, eventually they learn about money and responsibility. But they don't learn that for years. In the meantime-all they know is that you aren't there. They learn to depend on others.

Now, Sour Pea is 6 and GG is learning the same lesson. It's interesting to watch. I learned that lesson with Spicy Pea.

Our country just doesn't prioritize parenting at all.
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