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Old 08-17-2012, 02:46 AM
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Oh-and for those who wonder about kids...

I was off to a "retreat" for home school kids the last two days. It was a blast. I took my youngest two kids and the two little girls I used to babysit who are also home schooled.

They got to go horseback riding, rock wall climbing, arts and crafts, geocaching, fossil hiking, campfire... and swimming (in a freezing lake!).

Very good for the soul being off the grid and enjoying nature.
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Old 08-17-2012, 03:01 AM
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LOL! In addition-we happened upon the detail that made connection/disconnection I was feeling make sense to him (THAT has taken a number of years). It popped out there and we were both like OMG! We just figured it out! HOLY FUCK!
I'm pretty sure he was as shocked as me. We've gone over the topic so many times over the last 14 years to no avail. Then-it just slipped out suddenly amidst our discussion of the argument ... THERE was the clear picture for him AND the solution for us.
FTW. Awesome!

MrS and I had an epiphany 3 or 4 years into our marriage (7-8 years into our relationship) where we realized that what I was really asking for (as opposed to what I said/thought I was asking for) was something that he was actually able to accommodate with enthusiasm. Sigh - so much better now. You think you are talking/arguing in circles and then...something "clicks" - someone hears the words you are saying with new insight and...ENLIGHTENMENT for all.

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Old 08-17-2012, 03:11 AM
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Yes Jane! It's amazing when that little click happens. I almost kissed the phone! (he's still out of town working).

Its so hard trying to figure some things out-but once ya do! WONDERFUL.



I told him-before the click happened-"I keep trying, I just haven't figured out the picture to draw for you yet". Then it happened and I laughed out loud.

I think more like galagirl writes and Maca-uh, yeah, not so much. hehehe. He's a straight, single line thinker-and fast too.
But I make him nuts with my circles.
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Old 08-17-2012, 04:44 AM
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Aw. I'm glad it clicked.

If it helps...

An anthropologist friend told me women need to speak 30K words a day to feel right. Men need 15K. I was amazed because suddenly so much made sense about me and the glassy-eyes of my honey when I push him past "I am now too full! Help!"

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Old 08-17-2012, 11:09 PM
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GG, that is a VERY interesting piece of trivia. I'll have to ponder that one over the weekend of camping!
Thank you for sharing!
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Old 08-17-2012, 11:53 PM
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An anthropologist friend told me women need to speak 30K words a day to feel right. Men need 15K. I was amazed because suddenly so much made sense about me and the glassy-eyes of my honey when I push him past "I am now too full! Help!"
I've heard this - so has my husband and he likes to remind me of it on occasion. Of course I might reply with, but you've only used 9k, so you should have a few more words left.
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Old 08-18-2012, 12:53 AM
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An anthropologist friend told me women need to speak 30K words a day to feel right. Men need 15K. I was amazed because suddenly so much made sense about me and the glassy-eyes of my honey when I push him past "I am now too full! Help!"
Heh, what about transpersons and gender-queers? My gf is trans and she just babbles on and on, and sometime I just can't take it anymore. I'm cisgendered female but genderqueer and I just have to get away sometimes. Spent 4 days at my own place this week and besides my part time job and a little IMing, I barely said a word... or heard one. Heaven. My own thoughts were enough to keep me "feeling right." I didn't want to tell anyone anything, I didn't want to hear any gossip or deeper conversation. Just peace and golden silence, ahhh...
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Old 08-18-2012, 01:14 AM
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Old 08-18-2012, 01:17 AM
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