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Old 08-30-2014, 08:49 PM
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Default Convincing my partner to blog about her life...

My partner, Jill, has 4 partners, one of Which she is legally married to.

She lives with me, not her husband. She divides her time up 2 days with each partner except for 1 partner who gets 1 day a week.

We all see the same relationship counselor, preventatively (there are no major issues at the moment).

She says she is feeling love like she has never felt before in her life and I would LOVE for her to blog about her life. I'm sure that her blog would be very entertaining and informative to new poly folk.

But I can't convince her.. Any ideas??
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Old 08-30-2014, 08:50 PM
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...oh and there are 10+ kids and 2 grand kids in the polyship....
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Old 08-30-2014, 09:26 PM
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Old 08-30-2014, 09:46 PM
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I agree with GalaGirl. Although you think Jill's situation would be beneficial for folks to hear about and learn from--and you may be correct--it's *Jill's* situation, and it's her choice whether to share it or not.

If you think reading about Jill's life could help others, maybe ask her whether she would be comfortable with *you* sharing some aspects?
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Old 08-30-2014, 10:52 PM
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If she doesn't want to blog, she doesn't want to blog. I suggest you stop bugging her about it. Blogging isn't for everyone. If someday she wants to badly enough, she probably will. If you want a blog so much, then start one of your own.
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Old 08-31-2014, 01:27 AM
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When would she have time ?
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Old 08-31-2014, 12:23 PM
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When would she have time ?
Excellent point!!
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Old 09-02-2014, 09:29 PM
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NOt everyone has the desire to write about their life. Perhaps she might be more amenable to a memoir?

If she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to. You can't convince her to.
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Old 09-02-2014, 11:13 PM
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Have you tried bribery?

What about blackmail?
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Old 09-03-2014, 01:21 AM
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I would agree that if it's not something SHE wants to do-it's not pertinent that YOU would love for her to do it.
Blogging takes time and energy and preferably an enjoyment of writing-none of which all people have.
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