Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > General Poly Discussions

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 06-07-2015, 01:07 AM
threesnocrowd threesnocrowd is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Boston
Posts: 106
Default Hotwives?

What do you guys now about hot wives and the men who love them?
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 06-07-2015, 01:18 AM
FallenAngelina's Avatar
FallenAngelina FallenAngelina is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Long Island, NY
Posts: 1,321
Default

I really dislike that term. I wish it was called something else.
__________________
~ Karen
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 06-07-2015, 01:27 AM
nycindie's Avatar
nycindie nycindie is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: The Big Apple
Posts: 9,504
Default

There have been a few members here into hotwifery - do a search and you might find some past threads about it.
__________________
The world opens up... when you do.

"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry
"Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia "

Click here for a Solo Poly view on hierarchical relationships
Click here to find out why the Polyamorous Misanthrope is feeling disgusted.
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 06-07-2015, 02:55 AM
threesnocrowd threesnocrowd is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Boston
Posts: 106
Default

I agree HFA. It sounds kind of icky. Should we invent a new term? Any suggestions??
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 06-08-2015, 01:29 AM
kdt26417's Avatar
kdt26417 kdt26417 is offline
Official Greeter
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Yelm, Washington
Posts: 11,131
Default

Is a hotwife the wife of a cuckold? Wiktionary suggests that a cuckold is in most cases unaware of his wife's dalliances, whereas a hotwife's husband knows and approves.

If we're looking for a better word, would "freewoman" work?
__________________
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 06-08-2015, 01:57 AM
nycindie's Avatar
nycindie nycindie is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: The Big Apple
Posts: 9,504
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by kdt26417 View Post
If we're looking for a better word, would "freewoman" work?
I dunno what good it will do to try using a different word for a very specific kink/fetish, especially when the people who are into that kink call it hotwifery, and that is the term used in porn and at the online communities where they (the people who participate in hotwifery ) discuss it and seek out potential men to come over and fuck the "hotwives."
__________________
The world opens up... when you do.

"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry
"Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia "

Click here for a Solo Poly view on hierarchical relationships
Click here to find out why the Polyamorous Misanthrope is feeling disgusted.
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 06-08-2015, 11:48 AM
FallenAngelina's Avatar
FallenAngelina FallenAngelina is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Long Island, NY
Posts: 1,321
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by kdt26417 View Post
IWiktionary suggests that a cuckold is in most cases unaware of his wife's dalliances, whereas a hotwife's husband knows and approves.
As I understand it, the hotwife's husband not only approves, but encourages and fosters her hookups. For example, he might shop for her and lay out her specific outfits for these dates. The husband is more than an observer, as a cuckhold might be, and takes an active lady in waiting or even a Svengali role. But I know as much as you do, Kevin. I Googled it, too.
__________________
~ Karen

Last edited by FallenAngelina; 06-08-2015 at 11:51 AM.
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 06-08-2015, 12:14 PM
Magdlyn's Avatar
Magdlyn Magdlyn is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Metro West Massachusetts
Posts: 5,241
Default

threesnocrowd, why come to a polyamory site to learn about hotwifing? They are two different topics. Try Fetlife or specific hotwife sites.
__________________
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 60) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 38) since January 2009, living together since 2013
also loving Punk (monogamish, former swinger, 42, M) since Oct 2015
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 2 years
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 06-08-2015, 01:12 PM
opalescent opalescent is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: US
Posts: 1,773
Default

Hotwifing tends to be more about the guy 'showing off' his hot wife - hence the name - who is so attractive that other men want her. And he gets off on how hot she is, how other men want her and on seeing her have sex with other men. I think the husband tends not to participate but be more of a voyeur but I suspect this may not be true all the time.

Cuckolding tends to have more of an element of humiliation in addition. The cuckold has the idea that he doesn't satisfy his wife, his dick isn't big enough, etc. He gets off on seeing his wife satisfied in ways he 'can't', often by someone who has a bigger dick, is more muscular, more conventionally manly, etc. He usually doesn't participate but watches.

Poly is not kink and kink is not poly but they often overlap. I don't think the occasional question is a big deal.
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 06-08-2015, 04:48 PM
goddess1337 goddess1337 is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Tampa Bay, FL
Posts: 7
Default

Thank you for the post!

I have been involved with polyamory for three years now and when my husband first presented this "unorthodox" concept to me he referred to it as being a "hot wife". We have since discovered many new things and I have had a handful of lovers. I do not care for the term "hot wife" and I am thankful that this site is proving to be a place of educational opportunities.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 10:04 PM.