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Old 08-12-2009, 01:22 AM
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What is the difference then between a romantic relationship, an intimate friendship that involves sex?
Oy, that is a vexing question, isn't it?

I don't think sex is necessary for a romantic attachment. I've had attachments that I thought were highly intimate and romantic, yet without any sex involved.

I've also had friends-with-benefits ties, where the friendship also included intimacy, yet I wouldn't term it a romantic tie.

I can feel the difference. I'm not certain I can describe the difference as yet.

For I have no words and I must speak!
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Old 08-12-2009, 01:24 AM
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I can't believe so much of this thread was directed towards debating a word used to conceptualize the difference between friends and the poly concept of close deep friends you want to fuck. Why don't we define the word "love" with the dictionary as well because I see it thrown around like a cheap shirt all the time in the poly community? Words are used in different ways all the time to achieve individual goals and results. Sometimes they are just lame justifications to produce a higher sense of morality. Not all the time, just some of the time.
English lacks a vocabulary to express properly the variety of human relations. Odd that such a huge language that has mugged so many other languages for words should come up short when dealing with a topic of such affect.
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Old 08-12-2009, 02:39 PM
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I hope that you'll be willing to talk with me about it when we are in disagreement, rather than to stew in anger.
Yes, I definitely can go on a tangent and vent at times. A lot of this has to do with a major shift in the world I live in and the one I am leaving behind. I'm saying good bye to a life that was safe and comfortable and had lots of black and white while trying to retain who I am in a lot of ways. Sometimes my frustration is directed in intolerance and confrontational dialogue with other people both in my old world and my new one.

There are definitely times when I think it would be more positive for myself to withdrawal completely from forums and discussion groups and focus completely on my relationship. That might be a path in the future but for now I am holding on while working my way through my "sense of belonging" issues. Luckily I am quite comfortable being a community of one with a small family and circle of friends.

Thanks for the sobering words.
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Old 08-12-2009, 02:49 PM
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Luckily I am quite comfortable being a community of one with a small family and circle of friends.
I just realized that I do feel very alone in some ways. Good thing I'm comfy in that..hmmm processing.
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Old 08-12-2009, 05:57 PM
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English lacks a vocabulary to express properly the variety of human relations. Odd that such a huge language that has mugged so many other languages for words should come up short when dealing with a topic of such affect.
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Old 08-12-2009, 06:19 PM
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I just realized that I do feel very alone in some ways. Good thing I'm comfy in that..hmmm processing.
You are not alone love. I'm sure others go through the same stuff otherwise why would we bother writing on here or even read it. No one entirely "fits in." I certainly don't think I do. The joy of it is though that we all have a common thread that holds us here and that is to understand.

I for one think that when people go off on issues it helps to make me think about my own stance and where my values and morals fit in. There is nothing wrong with that.

I can't believe how far you have come in your own self discovery Mono. It is very impressive! If people on here could only are how much self learning you have done for real. I am so proud of you and to be with you. I know that you are going to a huge transition, thanks for letting everyone know so that we can be supportive and understand what is going on for you.

Many kisses to you baby.

I felt like I could hyjack my own thread as I started it.

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Old 08-12-2009, 06:36 PM
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I know that you are going to a huge transition, thanks for letting everyone know so that we can be supportive and understand what is going on for you.

Thanks Lilo, I should have said something earlier..Other freinds of ours have gotten a little of that anger too as we both know
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Default Can one be Asexual and Poly?

If not, I'll leave and feel free to delete this thread D:


It seems that the majority of poly people are interested in a shared sexual relaitonship with some, if not all, of their lovers. I'm not even sure if I can be qualified as poly, but the idea of having more than one steady is a bit interesting to me. I'm panromantic asexual though, so do I even belong here???
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Old 02-02-2011, 03:51 AM
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Why not?
Poly=many
Amory=loves

no where in there does it specify sexual.



Just because it's COMMON doesn't mean that it HAS to be sexual.
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Old 02-02-2011, 03:55 AM
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Here's some threads that are related http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showt...hlight=asexual

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showt...hlight=asexual

These are the two main ones I noticed after doing a search for asexual. There are more as well
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