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Old 08-06-2009, 07:48 AM
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okay, no one mentions this topic and I have some questions....

1. Does anyone prefer certain things with certain partners?
2. Does anyone have more sex with one partner over another?
3. Does anyone in a "V" have threesomes with their partners?
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Old 08-06-2009, 10:06 AM
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okay, no one mentions this topic and I have some questions....

1. Does anyone prefer certain things with certain partners?
2. Does anyone have more sex with one partner over another?
3. Does anyone in a "V" have threesomes with their partners?

I will be honest here, there are just certain things that I can do with my female partner that I can't with my husband (I'm sure you can understand why ) just as there are things I can do with him I cant do with her...I'm going to go out on a limb and say it's just the mechanics coming into action here but hey, you never know?! As for threesomes in the "V", when my husband and I were in our relationship with our love we usually all three were together and most of our sex was in the form of a threesome but that is how we all liked it and to be honest about it we had a lot of fun trying to find new and exciting ways to keep things interesting. But I will say that we did have our times when there was only 2 of us because we all knew that we wanted and yes, needed our one on one time with each other. I knew that he needed his time with her just as he knew I needed my time with her as well and she knew the 2 of us needed our time alone. But we did prefer our all together time!!!
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Old 08-06-2009, 11:43 AM
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Currently, it's just the two of us, but I'll answer on our most recent V

1. Does anyone prefer certain things with certain partners?
Yes. Everyone has their strengths in the bedroom. My husband is not a kissy-cuddly sort of guy, my OSO was very much so. He and I could spend ages just cuddling and kissing, which is something that is very rare with my hubby.

2. Does anyone have more sex with one partner over another?
In our set up, hubby and I did have more sex than I had with OSO... it was purely logistics. OSO preferred to maintain a seperate household, and had other commitments outside of our V, so he wasn't around as much as my hubby is.

3. Does anyone in a "V" have threesomes with their partners?
Yes. Our V would occasionally have threesomes instead of one on one encounters. It worked for us.
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Old 08-06-2009, 03:40 PM
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Here's my question: Does any one have a "cooling off" period between sex with different partners? This question was put forward to me by a mono friend that I recently told. She was confused that I couldn't share a glass with someone and kind of considers our "V" to be the ultimate form of "double dipping".

I have no problems with when or how often Redpeper and her husband have sex.
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Old 08-06-2009, 03:48 PM
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"double dipping" explained:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWuSi00CcNk

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My tendency is (or would be, since I'm presently only invoved with my one partner, Kevin) to choose only to have sexual intimacy with a person who I know to only choose partners who are properly cautious about germs and viruses, etc. My tendency is equally to choose partners who don't take sexuality as a triviality or casual plaything which doesn't include the emotional and spiritual aspect of our beings. Germs don't have to be present to turn me off! I'm turned of by "double dipping" into spiritually ungrounded sexuality. That is, sex without deep heart connecting.
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Old 08-06-2009, 03:54 PM
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Old 08-06-2009, 04:01 PM
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Ooops!

I repaired the faulty post, which had the wrong URL.

The correct URL is:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWuSi00CcNk
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I'll check the link out when I get home..Youtube is blocked from here.
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Old 08-06-2009, 04:17 PM
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The youtube link takes you to the Seinfeld episode where the "double dipping" debate occurs.
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HA! I love that show
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