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View Poll Results: What is the configuration of your relationship?
Single 3 4.62%
Closed couple 5 7.69%
Swingers 0 0%
Couple and dating with no serious outside partners 8 12.31%
V, N, or etc 36 55.38%
Triad, quad, etc 9 13.85%
other 4 6.15%
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Old 09-25-2013, 02:42 PM
sleepygirl sleepygirl is offline
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Currently, I would say we are a closed couple. Hubby has no interest in anything else at the moment. I think he was hurt too badly by our experience with K (our failed triad) and needs to heal. He has said if I still want a girlfriend I could have one, but my plate is rather full as it is, just with our own lives, and there is no one I am interested in at this time. If someone wanders our way that should catch either of our attention, we'd probably be open though.
Women and cats will do what they want, men and dogs will have to get used to it. ~~ Heinlein
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Old 09-25-2013, 04:16 PM
Nox Nox is offline
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Originally Posted by Emm View Post
I'm not sure I could explain it, so I drew a picture:

I'm the blue one.
That is hilarious and clever.

From my perspective, mine is a V.
Me: 40 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 18 years
LDR girlfriend: Susan - poly female - 3 year relationship
Stakes - very intimate friend
Ironically named Farmgirl - local interest
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Old 09-25-2013, 04:33 PM
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Emm-that's awesome.
"Love As Thou Wilt"
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Old 09-25-2013, 06:56 PM
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Default Point on a triad, end of a V...

So I answered Triad, because that's the local and active relationship that is growing so strongly these past few weeks and months... but now I want to change my answer because up until now we've been more of an N with my long distance relationship to EL (who is married). So when the left edge of an N gains a shared point, does that turn into a triad with V attached at one point - so EL is in a V with me and her husband, and I'm in a triad with WI and AM, in addition?

I'm still kind of shocked to be in three relationships, folks. Still trying to figure out how that happened...
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Old 09-25-2013, 07:17 PM
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Currently, "Couple and dating with no serious outside partners".

I haven't been with another partner at all during the last five years with R. (there are very, very few folks compatible with me, anyway; while I'm always open, and would never agree to be in any kind of closed arrangement, I'm not actively looking for other partners, and I doubt that I'd meet someone eligible anytime soon even if I were looking); she's been with another gal for a bit over a year during our time in an "N"-type of structure (more complicated than that in detail, as the other couple were swingers, but the "N" was the core of it), and currently doesn't have serious other partners, while being open to it also (and a lot more easily compatible with other folks than I am ).
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Old 09-25-2013, 08:30 PM
BSP83 BSP83 is offline
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Closed triad.
B-That's me! About to turn 30, mom to 3 brats, married to P for 11 years and dating S.

P-my husband

S-my/our girlfriend
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Old 09-26-2013, 12:01 AM
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WaywardDruid WaywardDruid is offline
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Talking Who Us ??

Open marriage since 1974.

Discovered the word Polyamory 1997.

Became charter members of PolymatchMaker in December 2000.

At this time she is dating and I am not.

The future is always fluid on the circle so who can say what we'll discover up ahead.

Just Us,
Tim & Trisha (Hakiem or LazarusLong & Stormsinger)
Round & round the circle goes.
We seek the ones who will share in love.
In our dreams the answers come.
Round & round the circle goes.
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Old 09-26-2013, 05:34 AM
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Voted for "V, N, or etc" but triad is applicable too (see my signature for the details). I didn't vote for the triad option (but I would have if multiple answers were allowed) because I feel our triad is too different from the typical ones - besides what I said in my signature, we're not primary partners and probably never will be, and we're happy this way (although we do hope to live closer).

Note: In my book, "primary partner" only means "live-in partner". It doesn't indicate hierarchy. A and L are as emotionally significant to me as G.
Heteroromantic asexual female, sex-positive, childfree, relationship anarchist.
Married to G, and in a partially non-romantic, completely non-sexual and long-distance triad with A and L.

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Old 09-26-2013, 11:39 AM
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V. N has a girl friend and some occasional fwb. I was seeing a guy but that petered out so now its just N. I have a lot harder time finding partners than he does.
Sue, hinge in a vee with Nate (Polysexual) and Sam (monogamous)
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Old 09-26-2013, 02:16 PM
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It is hard to describe but the most simplistic way would be a V with myself as a hinge with my husband and partner. However, C and H are both very good friends and will hang out and even play together sexually. Both men have also expressed interest in attempting a MFM 3-way.
MsChristy- married female
C-my husband
H-my partner
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