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Old 09-11-2013, 07:15 PM
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I've used the sponge. You can get them from a planned parenthood. Not sure where to buy.

I've also used the VCF, Vaginal Contraceptive Film, you can buy these at some drugstores and get them from planned parenthood.

These both have N-9 which can cause irritation. I had a partner who felt burning after.

But it was effective in me not getting pregnant along with using withdrawal.
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Old 09-12-2013, 03:04 AM
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W00t! He asked for Levitra and got a prescription without me even bringing it up. Awesomesauce. I have a few different types/brands of condoms so we can see which we like best before buying in bulk.

All set now for Friday - his tests were all negative!

Thanks for the suggestions.
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:01 AM
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I don't recommend the copper IUD, just FYI. I had one in for over a year and had such intense heavy bleeding and long periods that I thought I'd lose my mind. I'm talking 10-14 day periods on a 30 day cycle. It ruined my sex life, I was constantly tired from the bleeding, and just miserable.

I have a Mirena in now and I spot lightly for maybe 3 days? My cycles are shorter, averaging 27 days, but some months I don't even bleed enough for more than a pantyliner.
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:58 AM
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Just a little advice because I work at Planned Parenthood. If you want something faster you can do the depo shot, which if you go to PP as long as they're aren't a lot of patient scheduled appointments you can get right in. You do have to get it every three months, but its a way to protect yourself from pregnancy and if you ever want to try to get pregnant again you just have to stop getting the shot. You can also go through PP's LARC program to get an IUD. The longest someone has had to wait after their consult is tops two weeks. The only downside is that you do have to schedule an appointment to get it removed to try to get pregnant. Just to put ideas out there.
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Old 09-17-2013, 01:05 AM
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Yeah, depo and Mirena both involve mucking with my hormones, and I am extremely very hesitant in going that route at all. Thanks for the input though.
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:02 PM
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I've heard such terrible things about the Depo shot. Just google Depo Provera horror stories! Yikes! Massive weight gain, loss of sex drive, pain during sex, osteoporosis and loss of teeth, migraines, depression, PCOS, high cholesterol, 2 week or longer periods, extremely heavy and painful periods, fatigue, weakness, dizziness, rage, blurred vision, suicidal thoughts or attempts, hair loss on head, hair growth on face, arms and legs, diabetes, blood clots, numbness in extremities, severe acne, growth of moles and skin tags, brown discoloration on face and neck, milk production when not pregnant, infertility after stopping shots.

This is just what you want when starting a new relationship. NOT.
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Old 09-17-2013, 01:53 PM
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Meh, you here that about sugar pills too. I'm not saying that it doesn't give any side effects, it does, not all of those, maybe a few for each person and things that are really dangerous like blood clots are very rare in people who do not have additional risk factors and quite rare in those that do . Preferable to pregnancy for me anywho.

I've taken it since I was about 14. Before I had my son seven years ago, it gave me no side effects at all and I also don't have periods. Since I have had my son, I have noticed it gives me some mild weight gain.
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Old 09-17-2013, 09:39 PM
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While copper IUDs can indeed make your periods heavier and longer, they're a really good option for someone who wants a non-hormonal birth control, because they're in place once and for all for 5 or 10 years depending on the model, and you don't have to remember birth control anymore and you don't risk running out of it or needing to go out to get some before you can come back to your partner and have sex.

Also, while the periods getting heavier is a very common side-effect, it doesn't always happen. I'm one of the exceptions: my periods used to be really heavy before I switched to the IUD, and as a result people really recommended not to use it. But I wanted something without hormones because they had a bad effect on my health and I figured I'd deal with the heavier periods.
Turns out my periods stayed the same level of heaviness for the first 6 months to a year, and ever since they've been reduced. Now there are only about 4 days of real period (with some spotting a day or to before and after, but regular panty liners that I'm using anyways take care of that) and I'm on my 6th year out of 10.

It does help that I use a menstrual cup though. As heavy as my flow is, I just need to empty the cup whenever I use the bathroom and I don't need to carry extra tampons or pads or anything to switch them when they're full. That does make it more practical when you have a heavier than average flow (and though mine is reduced now, it's still heavier than average).
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Old 09-17-2013, 09:43 PM
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Hmm, that is good to know. Right now my periods are 4 days long - spot, average, average, spot. To add a couple days wouldn't be terrible, but I don't relish the idea either.

Does anyone use diaphragms?
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Old 09-17-2013, 10:35 PM
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Hmm, that is good to know. Right now my periods are 4 days long - spot, average, average, spot. To add a couple days wouldn't be terrible, but I don't relish the idea either.

Does anyone use diaphragms?
I have not used them but do know about them.
Filling them with spermicide is highly recommended to increase their efficiency, as they aren't the most efficient thing ever. I actually haven't heard of people using diaphragms without spermicides.
You can put one in place before you have sex, but if you don't have sex without 6 hours, you need to put more spermicide in. Then you need to wait 6 hours after intercourse before you can remove it, but you can't leave it in for more that 24 hours in a row.
You can have sex more than once without replacing it, but then you should put more spermicide as deep as possible in your vagina (not inside the diaphragm if you've already had intercourse in the past 6 hours, as it can't be removed at that point).

I think that it wouldn't work very well for me, but it can work great for some people, so it's worth looking into if you're interested in it.
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