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Old 04-14-2014, 02:52 AM
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Old 04-14-2014, 09:08 PM
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I wish it was. Worked from home sat & sun (kinda nice) and today is my 8th day straight. Was up to 71 hours when I logged off last night. Tomorrow the boss is taking the entire (small) tax department out for drinks and dinner. We're done at 6 pm. Wednesday is a day off and then two days to work, then a 4day weekend (boss is paying for these days and I don't have to use my pto) then 2 days and then another 4 day weekend back in my home town for the 16 year old's soccer tournament.

Hook...can I just say he's dreamy. He wasn't able to meet this weekend. And last night...he sent the sweetest text and asked if I'd send him a face pic cause he misses me. (heart pitter patters).

Ok...just finished working over 5 hours from home (sick p-nutt) and will be heading in to the office once wild orchid picks up bassman from work.

Boy I've relaxed quite a bit. No issues with her coming over. He had to cancel their overnight tonight due to the teen being at a college campus some hours away for her honor class' science convention. Can't work late without teen or bassman here. Well now that I'm hooked into the office, I guess I could've worked from home later today...but Princess does not make that easy. Ever tried to work with a high energy 3 year old girl?
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Old 04-16-2014, 10:46 PM
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Left work a little early with my co-worker. We headed to her place to let out the dog and to show me her home. Gorgeous up on the mountain, in the woods, with a gorgeous view of CDA Lake. It's resort community in some aspects...lots of tourists in the summer and fall.

While there, I had a few texts and one was from Hook. He had sent me a couple pics of him, no shirt on...man is he just...yummy. All these months, I dreamed of another, tall, dark hair...and I think I've been dreaming of him. I love that he instigated contact on pof. Love his bluntness...and when I told him what I was on pof for, that I am wanting a relationship, he's wasn't scared off. Yeah, it's going a lot slower than I'd like, but that's okay too.

I have realized I am still "open and looking" as 1 to 4 times a month, this is all Hook can give of his time to me, will not be enough. I'd like to just enjoy meeting new people and just seeing where it goes. And my mind goes to thinking of Hook and Bassman...

Lots of sexy times today with Bassman. He got kids off to their places so we were alone all day long. So nice...making love during the day, all day long.
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:44 PM
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On 3 of 4 days off. I'm bummed though. I tweaked my left hip so its been days off healing. When can a woman get a break, I yell at the charma in my life.

That's what I'll do just stick my tongue out to it. Life after tax season has not leveled yet. A soccer tournament across another state is on Friday. Super excited to head home (my old home where I grew up & lived as an adult for a bit), family and friends. And its Arts Walk too! Sports, fun & art all in one weekend.

That's how life hadn't leveled.

Hook is gone for two weeks. He is only a guy I'm pitter patter like a bit but keeping myself centered on this. I'm better off realizing that I won't be satisfied with minute (not the time word) interactions and so I've been talking with a few different blokes but nothing exciting.

Dating or poly, which is harder?
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Old 04-24-2014, 02:06 AM
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Weird things started happening this last weekend. Basically 4 of the guys I've had a date with contacted me in the last few days.

Kickboxer was first but he gets a hold of me at plain random moments. Pretty much out of the blue at any hour of the day. Guess it's when he's not in class, working or has his boys. And he's in the category of random fwb.

I never gave this one a name, many months back. The 2nd military guy, manic depressive (his words when we met)...around the end of Oct. Sends me a text about (he's a pathologist) a patient who pretty much almost died and he called the nurses and doctors on it. Kinda...not completely from left field. Like, um, we haven't talked in how many months, aside from his in the middle of the night, possibly feeling lonely moments, about how he'd like to see me again. I never did respond to that one. But then he sends me selfies.

to be cont later, princess is awake from an early evening nap.

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Old 04-24-2014, 02:37 AM
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LOL this is threw me for a loop yesterday. Puker...yep he text'd me. Said he "missed the good time we had" up until he lost it and blacked out. I haven't responded back. Dude meditated and called to tell me I am a bad person and how polyamory is just wrong. Maybe he forgot that call? Or he's got some too crazy for my cup of tea thing going on...I think I'll stay away from that.

Big sigh...and then Mechanic text'd me today. The 22 year old...air force. We had a tryst for a 3rd time, but pretty much a second round at attempting to connect. Hmmm...communicating he's pretty terrible at. LOL thought I was "unimpressed" (yes his word) with him. Honestly, in a way, the intellectual side, was very unimpressed. I do like him, but that coming full circle, so to speak, kinda changed my assessment of what I "liked" about him.

And from that discovery and meeting wonderboy as well as hook, in addition to reconnecting with someone prior to poly yesterday, I know that for an intense emotional relationship with anyone, the closer to my age seems to be more appealing to me now than a year ago. Physically, yummy yes's to the younger guys...and I won't say it can't happen but statistics are lining up. It's important for me to have an intense intellectual connection in addition to the physical chemistry to even think about a Significant Other type relationship.

Dang! What's that term? Epiphany has hit Ali.

Back on Mechanic...we text'd for a bit. He explained that because I didn't text him I made it home like I had before, he thought I moved on. I didn't text back because we never discussed a "relationship", just figured it was a fwb moment, naw NSA moment. Figured if the guy's interested, the interested I crave from another (that epiphany) he'd frickin' text me at least later that day if I hadn't to make sure I made it home (I live between 45-60 minutes away and between 3-4 am). EDIT and was during our snow storm.

And that, ladies & gentlemen, is truly the test of whether the person is worth my time.

Yesterday was the last of my 4 days off. My back still hurts but, well, I needed a pure physical release. Not sure of a name for my buddy. We reconnected via texts over a month ago. I was into him right before we met Nurse (PR). Friday I let him know about my days off and that Tuesday would be great to meet up. He came over yesterday (home all to myself & bassman was well aware of and very encouraging) for some play time. I think after playing we relaxed and just talked. He has more time in winter and early spring...construction field...picks up now.

Oh...some compersion going on right now. Bassman and Wild Orchid are kinda back to two overnights a week. He just left a bit ago. I'm smiling and happy.

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Old 04-30-2014, 07:33 PM
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there's time when I make it happen.

Ok so the past boys...haven't really stopped trying to get me to meet with them. Puker - well he isn't even willing to admit he handled the situation with me in a bad way and is so, just so not aware of how he made me feel...not replying back to him. I did at first, to see where the conversation was heading...but it appears to just be about being lonely, possibly and I'm not into that.

Now the mechanic...was good and patient about me going out of town but did want an answer from me about seeing each other again. He actually fessed up on where he made assumptions, had wrong expectations and that he did hurt me.

Soo...I asked him point blank for this time around: is this to be a relationship were we get to know each other, do things together or is it just going to be nsa/fwb. His response was he wants to get to know me more and that the previous three times we've met, it seems one of us has the other's clothes off within 5 minutes.

He also said he felt like an asshole for always being tired and crashing when I visited.

It looks like Fridays I will be getting to know him, do activities and sexy times together. I also suggested to bassman that he and wild orchid, because it was a want of wild orchid's, that they move their current Thursday overnight to Friday and she is more than welcome to sleep over in our home. Unfortunately, she's going to some hot springs Friday but if Mechanic and I do evolve and continue it'll be on Fridays, so that by both bassman and I seeing our other on this day, we'll not loose a day with each other.

When we first started out, we agreed to him two overnights, me two overnights, which would leave us with 3 nights to be with each other (this is saying I have an OSO and he has an OSO). I've never had an OSO yet (yes plenty of hook ups but that was for sex only and only the mechanic did I stay as late as I could 4 am).

So bassman asked me "what about hook"? Well I don't think I'll be happy with having an OSO that could only see me once every four weeks or so. I would like to just be able to date both hook and mechanic, with a once in a while fwb thrown in there (I currently have two-kickboxer and my friend that I haven't figured a name for yet).

In all honesty, what I feel for hook far outweigh what I feel for mechanic, but I'm not going to pass up a relationship that does have potential for some good times and happiness....to find out hook just can't do it and there I go, wasting my time, waiting.

So I think I'm good with where my poly dating is heading. I'll see mechanic on Fridays...but if family things or traveling happens, I won't see him until the next Friday. I guess I need to make me a list of expectations and boundaries to discuss with mechanic Friday.

Okay, back to work, lunch break is over!
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Old 05-01-2014, 04:15 AM
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LOL this is threw me for a loop yesterday. Puker...yep he text'd me. Said he "missed the good time we had" up until he lost it and blacked out. I haven't responded back. Dude meditated and called to tell me I am a bad person and how polyamory is just wrong. Maybe he forgot that call? Or he's got some too crazy for my cup of tea thing going on...I think I'll stay away from that.

Big sigh...and then Mechanic text'd me today. The 22 year old...air force. We had a tryst for a 3rd time, but pretty much a second round at attempting to connect. Hmmm...communicating he's pretty terrible at. LOL thought I was "unimpressed" (yes his word) with him. Honestly, in a way, the intellectual side, was very unimpressed. I do like him, but that coming full circle, so to speak, kinda changed my assessment of what I "liked" about him.

And from that discovery and meeting wonderboy as well as hook, in addition to reconnecting with someone prior to poly yesterday, I know that for an intense emotional relationship with anyone, the closer to my age seems to be more appealing to me now than a year ago. Physically, yummy yes's to the younger guys...and I won't say it can't happen but statistics are lining up. It's important for me to have an intense intellectual connection in addition to the physical chemistry to even think about a Significant Other type relationship.

Dang! What's that term? Epiphany has hit Ali.

Back on Mechanic...we text'd for a bit. He explained that because I didn't text him I made it home like I had before, he thought I moved on. I didn't text back because we never discussed a "relationship", just figured it was a fwb moment, naw NSA moment. Figured if the guy's interested, the interested I crave from another (that epiphany) he'd frickin' text me at least later that day if I hadn't to make sure I made it home (I live between 45-60 minutes away and between 3-4 am). EDIT and was during our snow storm.

And that, ladies & gentlemen, is truly the test of whether the person is worth my time.

Yesterday was the last of my 4 days off. My back still hurts but, well, I needed a pure physical release. Not sure of a name for my buddy. We reconnected via texts over a month ago. I was into him right before we met Nurse (PR). Friday I let him know about my days off and that Tuesday would be great to meet up. He came over yesterday (home all to myself & bassman was well aware of and very encouraging) for some play time. I think after playing we relaxed and just talked. He has more time in winter and early spring...construction field...picks up now.

Oh...some compersion going on right now. Bassman and Wild Orchid are kinda back to two overnights a week. He just left a bit ago. I'm smiling and happy.
Hope that back is getting better! Cool you are having fun with the young dudes in addition to Bassman and Wild Orchid
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Just reading your blog makes me feel like I'm in a whirlwind! How do you manage your time? You must be an extroverted personality to be able to deal with so many people! I wish I had that skill
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Just reading your blog makes me feel like I'm in a whirlwind! How do you manage your time? You must be an extroverted personality to be able to deal with so many people! I wish I had that skill
I'm not sure if I'm intro or extro verted (maybe just verted...perverted ). I think it comes from having a birth sign of Capricorn...and when back in college I always took jobs as an assistant manager...dealing with phones, customers, employees just kinda built me for it, in some way. And even with my current job...I'm working on tax returns for one person going back to 2006 to 2013 and next thing I know a client calls and wants tax advice about 2014, guess I've adapted to multi-tasking .

There is one part of my life that is, at least for me, a failure (that's my laundry - I get it caught up and then wham bam it's back to mountains-at least the teen is able to do her own now). And housework. Ah...if not for Princess (the 3 year old) there wouldn't be any housework. And the family is begging me to get a puppy! The Rule: once the house stays cleaned and continues to be "clean" for at least two to three weeks, then I'll discuss puppy thoughts with the landlord.

Funny, I never thought about it as a whirlwind...it's just always has been like that. I do enjoy me time though. And that is Monday nights. Bassman is at Wild Orchid's and all the kids are asleep...then I just relax and do whatever appeals to me at that moment. It could be watching porn, it could be IM'ing, it could tv vegetation or at times...sleep lulls me before I even realize it. But in retrospect...yeah...ever since I started working again it does seem like it's been non-stop.

Ok...bad worker here...I'm bored...after getting through this client's 2011 return...I'm about asleep from the redundancy but I can't complain...if there weren't folks years and years behind I wouldn't be overwhelmed with my work load either. Those catch 22's...gotta love 'em.

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