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Old 08-16-2013, 03:22 PM
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Hmmm, I kind of took that as being cheeky, not judgemental.
as did i
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Old 08-16-2013, 05:02 PM
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Wow, judgmental community much?
I am an entire community now? MY POWER GROWS!!

You can get pissy (yet again) if you want FC. You were the one who gave that description of the configuration where everyone is bi and involved with one another. My comment was meant to poke fun at you while adding that particular configuration to the topic.

I will never again hear about a quad+ type situation where everyone is shagging everyone without hearing "fully integrated" in my head!!
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Old 08-17-2013, 12:13 AM
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I was trying to give an example. That's literally all. I was really hoping for constructive advice, not judgments. But thanks for crediting me with new terminology :-)
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Old 08-17-2013, 03:00 PM
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Wow, judgmental community much?
Interesting take. Marcus didn't actually use any judgemental language at all. However, I find it fascinating that you chose to read between the lines and find judgement where none was intended. Usually that says more about the reader than the speaker...
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Old 08-17-2013, 03:25 PM
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Wow, judgmental community much?
I found it humorous. It's an unlikely consequence of the configuration - but it could be fun

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Old 08-20-2013, 05:59 PM
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Personally, I find relationships where it's all about sex to be more open than poly. That is not the kind of configuration I prefer, though I get that it appeals to others.
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Old 08-20-2013, 08:48 PM
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I've had friends say, and I believe, too, that you can't really date half a couple. That is, you'll have a relationship with both, regardless of it being intimate.

But, the way I see it there are two kinds of relationships. One, you have two people that date others on the side. In that case, I guess you could have a very minimal relationship with the metamour. Two, you date with the intention of those people being equal partners in the group...and if you really want to be fully involved with your partner's life, then, yes, I think it's absolutely necessary to have a good relationship with everyone involved.
Im gonna have to disagree with you. While I tried, and would like, to be in a good and more involved relationship with my partners metamour, it just aint gonna happen. Shes a fine person, im a fine person....it kinda ends there. We are nice to each other, and we can be in the same place at the same time.

This, has not lessened or detracted from my BF and my relationship at all. We still love each other,spend a lot of time together (and he with my spouse and family ,they are good friends) but my not being friends with his wife is working out ok.
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Old 08-20-2013, 09:04 PM
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Personally, I find relationships where it's all about sex to be more open than poly. That is not the kind of configuration I prefer, though I get that it appeals to others.
Im not sure where this plays in...werent we all discussing how involved groups of people were with each other? i also consider it being all about sex to be more open than poly, but im not sure how that fits in here unless this thread has fried my brain a little
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Old 08-31-2013, 04:50 AM
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Does anyone want to try for a tesseract?
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I just stumbled across this fantastic gif of a rotating(??? what do you call it when it's doing it in 4 dimensions?) tesseract:



From here: http://epicjaws.com/epic/how-things-...ust-read.html/

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Old 09-01-2013, 01:52 PM
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In my situation my wife and girlfriend actually meet first to see if the clicked.
They went shopping and almost immediately loved hanging out and have found they were alot alike in energy and shopping. So they both knew they would be great in the couples thing ,at least for them two.

We finally all meet a few days later for drinks and we all clicked the mean and the women.

So that how we are
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